@Caroline,
The word is okay in the context it was used. I can justify it.
It derives from the Latin word
rapere which meant to take or sieze by force or fraud. Civilisation represents the rape of nature.
It's akin to
sadism which actually means the pleasure felt from the observed modifications on the external world produced by the will, or ego, of the observer. It's vicarious aspect is when pleasure is derived from observing such modifications produced by the will, or ego, of others as, for example, buildings, ornamental gardens and trained behaviour in animals.
Gustave Flaubert made a comparison between some "magnificent" pile he came across in his travels with the wing of a bee and one much to the disadvantage of the former.
Such a trait, which some think an instinct since the fall of Adam, when applied to sex is "algolagnia".
Germaine Greer's remark that all men are rapists derives from these sort of considerations as does the feminist chant "romance is rape". Few philosophers will take the matter in hand because of their own sexual activities. A patriarchal system, whilst delivering the benefits of civilisation as well as the drawbacks, has certainly modified womanhood.
I see no reason to object to Caroline's usage except from a basis of misuse of the language.