@merzbild,
merzbild wrote:
@sozobe
I would be pursuing a girlfriend in the same way i am now which is pretty relaxed to be honest, i am not very good with women and so i find dating and meeting them pretty hard and tend to avoid it.
OK, that makes me nervous, sorry. That's the kind of personality I see getting trapped in these moony friendships -- when you're in love with the girl you're friends with but it's not reciprocated. And I've seen this so so many times. The guy eventually gets frustrated and resentful, the girl gets resentful that she's being resented when she hasn't done anything wrong, the well gets poisoned, and the friendship breaks up after a significant amount of time and a significant amount of emotion... and not even any sex!
I absolutely would not go so far as to say this is what definitely WILL happen -- I don't have enough information for that, and even if I did this stuff is not always so predictable. But just from what you've said, I'd hazard that it's a
likely outcome.
Which would mean my advice would be a) don't change the status quo (don't become closer to her than you are now) or b) use your friendship with her as a springboard to
other relationships. Have her set you up with friends, give you advice, etc.