@ossobuco,
Thank you.
Let me repeat so no one will misunderstand me. I am not sedentary or overweight. I’m a gym rat. For about two years I’ve been working with a personal trainer on a bodybuilding program. The experience has not only been beneficial with regard to my physical health (not to mention my self-esteem), but has also been psychologically therapeutic.
Although I deny that athletics builds character (in the moral sense of the word), I don’t deny that some kids benefit from participating in a sport. The traditional sports-centered P.E. should always be available for them as an elective.
But what nonathletic kids need to do for the sake of their physical health is to get on an exercise program instead of being forced to participate in competitive team sports, which is like putting the cart before the horse. Besides, no single sport exercises all the muscles of the body. I once read a newspaper article about a professional football player who started taking ballet lessons. He was surprised when he ended up with sore muscles.
I feel like screaming whenever I hear people say that all students should be required (forced) to participate in sports because sports promotes physical fitness. Promoting sports is not the same as promoting physical fitness. You’re talking apples and oranges here. No, I take that back. You’re talking apples and rocks. Forcing an obese boy to play baseball, for example, is totally wrongheaded and even cruel. (Am I saying that there’s anything wrong with baseball per se? Of course, not.) The exercise he needs to do is constant physical movement. (Many people may find him to be irritating, but Richard Simmons has the right idea. And, no, speaking as a happily married father, I am not gay.

) An obese boy who is forced to participate in baseball in a traditional mandatory P.E. class will definitely not be engaging in constant physical movement. Not only will he not benefit physically, but his presence on the team will be resented; and he will be subjected to humiliating ridicule, if not bullying.
“Sports have become a defining attribute for men, unfortunately.” Who said that? Did I say that? No, I didn’t say that. Joe Ehrmann, a former professional football player, said that. Have you ever noticed that a boy who throws a baseball poorly is said to throw “like a girl”? I don’t mean to be politically incorrect; but telling a boy that he is like a girl is a vicious insult, worse than calling him dumb. Lack of athletic prowess in a boy or a man is somehow viewed as evidence of effeminacy. In another topic of this board, a member of this forum who once coached high-school football said in so many words that there was no difference between a nonathletic teenage boy being humiliated in a traditional mandatory sports-centered P.E. class and a high-school football player having trouble with trigonometry. I would respectfully but firmly disagree. The football player who has trouble with trig is not denigrated as the nonathletic boy, whose masculinity is often called into question. An acquaintance of mine who played football in high school (and is still a big fan) recently told me that most of his teammates had looked down on all of the nonathletic guys at their school as supposedly being inferior. I guess those who refer to nonathletic boys who don’t like sports as “fags” have never heard of David Kopay, Brian Sims, or Esera Tuaolo (not to mention others who have stayed in the closet). Aside from the issue of sexual orientation, there have been men of great courage (in other words, not exactly unmanly) who disliked sports and never participated in them.
There is a formerly active member of this website (i_like_1981) whom I’ve gotten to know personally through frequent correspondence (e-mail and PM). He’s an Englishman who resides in the United Kingdom and is not a citizen of the United States, but his experience is still relevant to us Americans. He, too, was forced to take P.E. classes. Since he had a scrawny build, he was subjected to bullying that was a bit more severe than just having a slurpee poured down the back of one’s shirt. I’m talking physical violence. Among other incidents, he once had his head forced into a toilet that had just been used and slammed hard against the bowl by athlete classmates.
When he was in the British equivalent of junior high, one day in one of his P.E. classes, he was forced to participate in a game of cricket. The team to which he was assigned lost; and he was blamed for it, never mind that he was there against his will. When the game was over, one of his teammates walked over to him and smashed him in the face with a cricket bat and broke his nose. The punk who did it was only suspended from school for a couple of days. There was no juvenile detention for him. When he returned to school, he shoved my friend into a locker. Not exactly remorseful, was he? If someone walked up to you on a street and smashed you in the face with a baseball bat and broke your nose, you would see him in court. But since this happened in a P.E. class, it wasn’t treated like the crime it most certainly was. Incidentally, when have any sportswriters or sports columnists ever written about violent physical bullying of this sort in mandatory P.E. classes?
In one of his e-mails or in a post at another website, i_like_1981 said that he had wished that the P.E. classes he was being forced to take offered physical fitness programs for the nonathletic boys. Well, of course, they didn’t offer any such programs. Then I told him about my positive health club experience and urged him to find a health club where he lived and get started on a bodybuilding program. He found a local gym and was delighted to discover that he could exercise without being bullied or ridiculed. Had I not told him about my own experience, he never would have checked out any health club or gym, thinking that they were the exclusive property of “jocks.” No thanks to mandatory traditional P.E.