I can absolutely understand WHY you guys are saying it
but that is so damn brutal. Just telling someone Give up your baby! your gonna **** it up if you dont.
You are not what is best for that baby. You cant do it.
As a mother who DID have a baby at 19 and DID choose to give her up, I have to tell you, sometimes it feels the equivalent to an abortion. It is an extreme choice with some emotional repercussions that no one can understand unless they do it themselves. You all seem to have a glamorous idea of a woman just being able to walk away from her baby and move on. Im here to tell you 10+ years later it is still the most painful choice I have ever made and NOT a decision to make lightly and definitely not the decision to make on the weight of strangers.
What's the big deal about finishing high school? Who can say what Chelsea's kid will end up doing. Chelsea is Chelsea and not subject to chances and statistics.
Your society should support Chelsea's kid like our's would. It's rich enough so it does have the choice. What's the kid done to deserve all this ****?
I said it was disgraceful to recommend adoption on the basis of that post. I didn't say it was disgraceful to recommend adoption full stop.
The difference was that the white person had more to lose with their social standing so could enforce the marriage before the baby bump showed.
I don't know what help is available in England for teenage mothers, but in America the social system shows little mercy. The majority of girls like this end up in grinding poverty, dead end jobs, abusive relationships and living in squalid neighborhoods that turn their children into dropouts, drug addicts and/or gang members. The court system will go after the father for child support, but father's like this just end up in our version of the Marshalsea when they can't pay. Few can rise above the odds that are set against them.