Thank you for the kind words, hawkeye10. I have
figured out why my nerve twitched, and it certainly had nothing to do with you personally. When I have a personal interest in a particular issue because of my own past experiences, I'm capable of becoming emotional about it instead of presenting my own views in an effective rational way and with an attempt to understand and respect others (as much as is possible), all the while realizing that this is just an online forum and that most (if any) of us are not in any position to put into effect policy changes. You mention processing ... My problem is that I didn't understand myself for decades until beginning in the last few years
. There is abuse, and then there is deprivation and alienation. In my own childhood and early adulthood, I experienced more of the last two than I did of abuse. When I was a kid, I experienced considerable emotional pain and did not understand for many years what its real cause was. I grew up with depression, not even knowing what it was. Today, while I'm a bleeding heart towards others, I do realize (and have actually seen in the example of one of my recent friends) that the victim mentality can hurt the victim and even incline him/her to become a victimizer.
Perhaps this post could have been better written as well, but I've got business to attend. Later ...