@Lettie,
Lettie how are things with you 2 now?
I have been dating a man 20 years older than me for 13 months- we work in the same venue.
He was widowed nearly 3 years ago when his wife lost her battle to breast cancer.
We went on holiday for a week together in the last month and the whole time we were away I could sense he no longer wanted to be with me...then low and behold when we got back he dumped me...having only booked tickets for an expenisve 3 week holiday for himslef, his 3 young children & I for Christmas a month earlier.
I wouldn't say I've been perfect in this relationship, becuase I am a tad insecure and can lose my temper quickly...
But the insecurity of the realtionship only seemed to exasperate these feelings in me.
I really don't understand what has happened and I'm quite upset by it all...I still don't know the exact real reason why he has walked away.
He has said it's too soon and he feels it's too soon for me to be at his house...even though I didn't start going there until we were about 11 months in. His wife was always the present tense- and he'd say things in my compnay which I shouldn't have ignored; like- "I think of her every day" and when I was at the house with the kids he'd remind them of things to do with her.
All the time telling me he felt disrespectful in many ways towards her for being in the relationship- but yet still willing to run ahead with our relationship in terms of planning my life to fit in with his & me letting him, sleeping with me (of course.)
I'm very hurt and very let down and too be honest I don't feel I really ever want to speak to him again.
He said he wants to be friends, then came to see me and tried his luck, told me I can not go on the Christmas holiday because we are not going out with each other & that I should delete his Son from Facebook.
This all sounds about as confused as I am.
I'm not very happy at all. I think he is an amazing man and it hurts very much that it seems he never wants to see or speak to me again. It's so abrupt & hurtfull.
I haven't really done anything to deserve the way he has treated me, except may be, be there for him which could possibly be percieved as being a walk over.
Did you work things out with your man? How are your kids?
All the best.