@chai2,
This is a small town, also judges here are elected..., for example the judges here recused themselves in our divorce and we had to get a visiting judge, he and his attorney wrote out a list of dates in which they were "unavailable" for over 6 months and our court house administrator, clerk, etc... said that there were no available visiting judges in the summer because they were on vacation. Also when we did go before a judge here which was (I believe) friends with his attorney, they spoke privately before we went in to court. Also prior to this court house would not release our file to the next town so I could get temporary maintenance as he took all of our money out of the accounts and canceled all of our insurance, etc...so, I got food stamps and we slept on the floor until I made enough money.
He is not involved in the domestic abuse center, but has been/is involved politically as well as myself. The attorney who" volunteers" said I was a conflict of interest and they even went on to tell me that they didn't even have any group sessions. Unbenounced to me I hired this office, paid them $2,000 and the attorney tried to get me to "settle" in the hall court house for $5,000, Ha!!! before she even saw my husbands financials.
Also as far as counselors or anyone else having "ethics" it seems that only if it serves them. I don't think that exposing him would make any difference and what would be the purpose.
I really tried hard to work with the court house, and dometic violence.
I went in and had a mtg with the director of domestic violence. I told her that if a women comes in and is a conflict of interest- because this is a small town, shouldn't we be given the same information as the others and could they refer them else where? She said she would get me information and I never heard back from her.
The comissioners office oversees these agencies, - mental health too, the counselor there told me to go home and look under "C" for counselor in the Yellow Pages. I tried to find out what the problem was but was told that they have funding for "sexual abuse" not for "domestic violence". So I think the same thing as domestic violence agency, she could have refered me to someone else instead of saying that???? As far as the couselor I briefly talked to, I'm not really sure why she saw me in the first place, esp. since I clearly told her who my husband was - 20 min into an hour session she said it was over. We had agreeded to 10 sessions and I filled out all of the paper work. I was stunned. So this is how it is, this is a small portion.
I truly feel like I almost had a nervous brake down, but I am glad I had my boys, because I had to keep going and getting up every day.
The good thing is, I have learned alot and feel so much better being encouraged by all of you. Today I went down and had my name changed on my license and will continue to do well. Thank you