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Why would a man do something like this

 
 
Reply Mon 16 Nov, 2009 02:10 pm
Why would a single man purchase sex when he can be with his girl friend who is more than willing to engage in this most intimate of acts/"
If anyone can answer this...please please let me know.
I am the girl friend...the one he calls beautiful, smart, funny, sexy and claims that the sex is amazing....and yet he was using the semi-pros off Craigslist, the casual sex girls of the dating sites and god knows what else.
There is nothing I would refuse him sexually, so I know it wasn't that.....I am extremely accepting, admiring and affectionate...so those needs are being met.
How can a man tell me that he loves me and wants me and that I make him happier than he has ever been and then turn around and arrange for a pair of hookers from Craigslist to make a service call??
I do wonder about the Madonna-Whore thing as I notice that I am not ever allowed to initiate sex, that the lingerie is only acceptable if he has decided that I wear it.....
I found out Sunday and this has torn me apart. His reaction when I told him in a brief and polite email? "Get your stuff out. You have until the end of the month"
That is it...nothing else. I feel I have absolutely no closure.
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Mame
 
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Reply Mon 16 Nov, 2009 02:51 pm
@LeonaBanks,
Because he's a crackhead?
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Ceili
 
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Reply Mon 16 Nov, 2009 02:52 pm
He's a crack addict. He doesn't have children. Maybe Beonce isn't his thang... He's into internet porn. He hires hookers.
Are you stupid? Closure, I'd have given him the door. No, wait. I'd never have opened it in the first place.
Are there no other men in your neck of the woods? No, wait - I don't care.
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Mame
 
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Reply Mon 16 Nov, 2009 02:57 pm
@LeonaBanks,
Okay, sorry for the sarcasm.

I don't want you to tell me but you should think about what it is about this person that you still love. His behaviour should be a big turn-off but it doesn't appear to be. If he was beating you would you still be there? Because each of these things is a slap in the face - a hard slap.

This is a very unhealthy relationship and you seem to want to continue it. I think you should see a therapist to find out why you have so little self-worth. And I mean that in the best way.

Good luck.
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tsarstepan
 
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Reply Mon 16 Nov, 2009 02:58 pm
@LeonaBanks,
Perhaps because he thought you won't bring up any negative consequences regarding his obvious transgressions other then write about it here at a2k, unless you're doing this without his knowledge ....

Until you mentioned the following email ... "Get your stuff out. You have until the end of the month" ... this is the bravest thing you could do right now ... if only you follow through.

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I feel I have absolutely no closure.

I hate to sound fatalistic ... but sometimes life doesn't always provide a convenient cinematic all loose ends tied up happy ending to every fairy tale story.

Now that you made the first step in taking back your life ... hopefully we here at a2k can be more supportive of your future choices.
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mm25075
 
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Reply Mon 16 Nov, 2009 02:58 pm
Seriously, who cares WHY he is doing these things. The fact is..he IS doing them which should make you wake up and see that what he's telling you is no where close to the truth.

Get him out of your life. Move on.
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Green Witch
 
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Reply Mon 16 Nov, 2009 03:02 pm
http://www.thequestforit.com/photos/uncategorized/2008/06/18/he_just_not_that_into_you_cover.jpg
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chai2
 
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Reply Mon 16 Nov, 2009 03:40 pm
Seriously....

because he pays a hooker some cash, has sex with her, and they both go their own ways.

A hooker doesn't ask questions, doesn't want a relationship, and doesn't want to know anything about the guy.

Ceili
 
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Reply Mon 16 Nov, 2009 03:42 pm
@chai2,
Do you blame her? lol Can't fault that logic.
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Linkat
 
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Reply Mon 16 Nov, 2009 03:59 pm
Is this your boyfriend?

http://www.boston.com/news/local/breaking_news/Craigslist%20Killing99.jpg

If so, it has to do with a gambling debt.
tsarstepan
 
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Reply Mon 16 Nov, 2009 04:04 pm
@Linkat,
Or just as long as it isn't ...
http://newsimg.bbc.co.uk/media/images/46726000/jpg/_46726528_008271941-1.jpg either.
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Green Witch
 
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Reply Mon 16 Nov, 2009 04:04 pm
Every time I see a LeonaBanks post I think of this song:


Green Witch
 
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Reply Mon 16 Nov, 2009 04:22 pm
@Green Witch,
Oops! we really need the words...

Linkat
 
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Reply Tue 17 Nov, 2009 11:17 am
@Green Witch,
Love the hair
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