@BillRM,
Quote:Come on Vikorr do not try to tell me that there is not a general tend to find reasons/excuses why the poor woman was slowly driven to break her vows and no such excused when it come to the male partner breaking his vows.
Hmmm...I would have said the general trend was to call the woman a slut, and to just shrug at the guy who does so.
I would also say that everyone seeks happiness in their life.
Quote:No she could not have talk to her husband and deal with the problems together she was force force to cheat of her emotionaly blind husband.......BULLSHIT
No one is ever forced to cheat...everyone makes the choice. Usually the choice is made long before the actual sex act occurrs, but many don't see it coming (pun wasn't intended)
Many people, both men and women, are blind to their partners emotional needs. Women contribute by not being direct to men, who really don't comprehend their hints very well (I'm pretty much in this boat too)
I do personally think that men more often than not need to be the initiators of romance, and I think silly any guy who thinks the things he does (or doesnt do) doesn’t affect a womans emotional ability to have become excited, to be challenged, to have sex, to feel alive.
I think people forget that, and I it’s a lot of work, and most people (men and women both) settle into a ‘comfortable routine’...meaning they believe they don’t have to make the effort any more...and I do think that any relationship that’s not growing, is dying (not matter how slowly)...and growth takes thought, work, and time.
Some people have good reasons for having affairs, some don't, some are understandable, some are't, some people have affairs without a care for their partner, others have affairs and feel guilty...there's a wide range of reasons people have them...and people who have been cheated on need to understand this as well, instead of just writing it off as 'she's a slut' or 'it's all his fault' or anything that means they don't also look at themselves to see if they they played a part...and if they did, to see the humanity that lead to it.