@boomerang,
If you intend to tell her the second way she just might decide that working out an agreement with you might serve all of you best.
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A mother who is willing to harm her child by keeping him or her from having a relationship with his/her father is hardly fit parent to begin with, once more assuming that there is no good reason not to keep the father away.
I would had first off would have done all lawyers could had done to share in the raising of the child with a share custody arrangement not just visitation and it is odd that child support would had been decided in court and that visitation rights would not have been decided at the same time.
There is more to this story then we are being told in my opinion
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