@OGIONIK,
OGIONIK wrote:i did work hard, i know you have never worked over 80 hours in a week, have you ?(97 to be exact for 3 months)
Of course. I just told you that I spend years, not "3 months", working close to 20 hour days, 7 days a week. I currently do well over 80 hours a week and so do many others.
Quote:by the way, idgaf about my typing, i agree with davids take on it, im here to talk to people, not ******* be a spell checker.
the scores i got in english on my sats put me in the top 1% in the nation. and i could care less what people think about my grammar.
Then get used to retail types of jobs. Nobody is going to care about your SAT in an office, but they will care if you write like that. It might sound nice to you to dismiss what anyone else thinks about your grammar, but your grammar may play a part in your success. You only have yourself to blame for your attitude about this.
If you are leaving better jobs off the table just because you can't be bothered to write properly then you shouldn't complain about your lot in life. This is something you can do to improve it but you've decided instead that you just don't care.
Quote:sorry, i do whine. oh well.
This can hurt you too. Not just in that people on a message board might get fed up with you but because it will also impede your career progress.
The whiny folk in companies don't do well. In the last company I worked they actively sought out and got rid of all the people who were whiners as they saw it as a "cancer" for morale.
Quote:can i ask why u didnt buy a bed to sleep on?
I was kicked out of my home and dropped of in another country when I was 13. I had places to live for the most part till I was around 16. Then my legal guardian told me I had 15 minutes to pack and he'd drop me off somewhere. At that point I became homeless briefly.
Quote:your answer is my problem.
i really dont see how u had it worse.
The point wasn't to convince you of my misery. But if you really think your situation is so awful then I'll explain it to you very simply.
I was not permitted to attend school till I was kicked out of the cult I grew up in. I then attended part of 7th grade and 9th grade before I became homeless and just went ahead and got my GED.
I'm not going to give you a sob story about how hard many other things were but I want you to understand that every kid I grew up with had to overcome greater challenges. I know very well how challenging poverty and educational barriers are. But the group of kids I grew up with in this cult have largely overcome them.
We didn't just have bad US-type poverty. Many of us got our start on our own with no experience outside the cult, no education, no family and often in countries we had no familiarity with (sometimes we didn't even speak the language).
And I'm trying to tell you just how beatable these odds are if you are only willing to discipline yourself and make the right choices.
Quote:my mom smoked crack meth and drank while she was pregnant with me, did yours? (how exactly do people cope with this ****?hahahahahahhaahhaha ok ok im feeling better now)
was your mother a prostitute?(i hope not)
No my mother didn't do drugs. But as to the prostitute question I'm going to have to say that's ambiguous, as this cult practiced a form of
religious prostitution that is not at all what you have in mind but that may be worse.
Many of the kids I grew up with were the product of this freaky practice. They even had a nickname, "
Jesus Babies". Regular prostitution would have been a lot less complex of a situation.
Want to know how people cope with it? People cope with these things by not letting them stop them. People cope with these things by realizing that these things in their past can only affect them as much as they are willing to let them.
If you act like you've been dealt an unbeatable hand by life it will likely play out that way. But if you decide that you aren't going to let your past serve as an excuse for your future then you will finally do something about it.
Quote:i grew up in abject poverty, no *decent* clothes to wear, little if any food to eat?
So did I OGIONIK. I know how limiting it is. I went though 9th grade with 3 pairs of pants. I remember being ridiculed about not having my haircut, not having any decent shoes. I stole lunch every day because I didn't qualify for assistance (remember, parents are deadbeats in anther country and never bothered to file taxes, so I can't prove I'm poor) and I went door to door mowing lawns and doing odd jobs to survive.
When I became homeless I lived in a dugout (it was off the street at least and the cops rarely found me there), I would go to the public gym to shower and I would buy "Mini-thins", a meth-based over-the-counter drug at the time that would curb my appetite. They cost $4 a bottle and that was cheaper than food.
I really do know what it's like OGIONIK. And I'm still here to tell you that you can beat it and that it all starts with not using your circumstances as an excuse anymore.
Quote:no haircuts?
child haven?
power getting turned off?
for months?
ever had nothing to eat but moldy pizza?getting beat by my moms and aunts random boyfriends? by my dad?seeing my family getting molested and ****..
FROZEN ******* moldy pizza at that LOL!
I do know moldy pizza. I had a friend who worked as a pizza delivery boy and he managed to pilfer me a pizza that I lived on for two weeks.
My mom cut my hair most of my life. It wasn't even as good as a bowl cut, she just cut a straight line over my eyes and the rest of my hair grew out. I looked like a girl.
When I got older I couldn't afford haircuts either, so I cut my own hair. I'm telling you OGIONIK, you aren't the first poor person to walk the planet.
And yes, I did grow up witnessing a lot of
abuse, many of the kids I grew up with suffered some pretty horrific things.
And I'm telling you once again, you can beat it.
Quote:true yeah i should just get over, better yet i am over it.wow, thinking about this **** sucks, so i probablly shouldnt..
That's the realest thing I've ever heard you say OGIONIK. You are right, you
shouldn't. You shouldn't dwell on your situational misery. You should put your past behind you where it belongs and forge your own future.
The sooner you stop thinking and talking about your past misery the sooner you can change your life for the better.
Just ask yourself, do you want something better or do you just want to keep blaming your past for your lot in life.
Of course your past had given you obstacles. But they don't have to be there forever. You are an adult now, you are the master of your own life.
Now that you are at the wheel you can't keep blaming where you are going on the previous driver.
Quote:how about that. k done talking about the subject .
i guess i should just think about the people who have it worse and be done with it.
No, it doesn't end there. Just thinking of all the starving children in Africa never did a thing to help me. And I know just how pointless it can be to you that others have it worse.
The point is perspective OGIONIK. If peers and I can overcome a cult upbringing with no education, heaps of abuse and even more poverty then so can you. The point wasn't just that you should be happy that others have it worse. I certainly wasn't happy and I'm not telling you that you should be at all. I'm just telling you that it's beatable.
And yes the first step is to put the past behind you. The ones who obsessed about it didn't do well. In fact a lot of them ended up dead.
Quote:drugs still dont make me a criminal. =P
I've had a long history with drugs, and I'm not here to pull a "drugs are bad, mmkay" speech for you. Honestly I think that isn't the biggest of your problems.
Your defeatist attitude and your chip on your shoulder are going to be the big things to overcome. Once you get past your past you need to address your authority issues. You know very well that the things I tell you about how you write can make a big difference to your success but you choose instead to brush it off and not care. You'd rather say "**** the world" than learn to present yourself well to the world and that's not going to hurt anyone but yourself.
Those are the little decisions that you need to get right OGIONIK. You are closing many doors for yourself just because you don't want to buckle down and use capital letters and punctuation. You are closing doors for yourself because you decide that certain things you just can't hack and aren't willing to put up with. You are closing doors for yourself by accepting your procrastination.
Don't accept excuses anymore. I am about 5 years older than you and I got out of my personal hell right around your age. You can do it too if you drop the attitude and make the right choices.