Why can't I get a job?

OMG. How do they sleep at night? Well, obviously, VERY carefully. I wonder if they all hang out together or belong to a club. Or have a partner. Or a family anymore. Jeez Louise. That's a little over the top.

I should darn well hope so (if only for their menfolk's sake).

You asked a question, you got an answer,Wilso!

Mercy!

I was doing some reading not long ago about extreme body modification after hearing a story about an older man who had shot off his leg because he just felt like his leg shouldn't be there. He had looked for a sugeon to amputate it but nobody would.

People have had themselves paralyzed and such just because they felt that was the way their body was supposed to be.

I even came across one website that some horrific photos of people who had their noses removed and all manner of unimaginable things.

These kinds of tattoos and piercings are probably just a less extreme version of whatever psychopathology the others suffer from.

Mo's drum teacher has several piercings, tattoos and implants and he is one of the nicest people I ever met.

You are quite correct, Boomerang. Self-scarification has always been a danger signal especially in the young. Here is the abstract from one researcher and her point of view:

Sharon Klayman Farber


Abstract A psychoanalytic framework provided direction for research on the association between binge-purging (bulimic) and self-mutilating behaviors, comparing them for similarities and differences. The similarities in the multiple functions and psychosomatic processes served by these behaviors are presented, as well as the phenomenon of symptom substitution. Both behaviors tend to be practiced by those with severe personality and dissociative disorders and post-traumatic stress disorder. Both serve ego-compensatory needs in the absence of the adequate ability to regulate and modulate emotions, moods, and tensions. They may serve as compensatory attempts to differentiate self and object, define and differentiate body boundaries, master severe childhood trauma by means of psychophysiological addictive reenactments, and to express emotion.

Note--

severe personality and dissociative disorders and post traumatic stress disorder.

ego-compensatory needs

absence of the adequate ability to regulate and modulate emotions

compensatory attempts to differentiate self and object.

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*oh my*

be still my freaky heart.

That first guy is pretty damn hot.

and yes, I said that outloud..




the rest of them just need some prozac. Freaks

OMG. I would hate to see some of those who have those big round things in their nose when they have a head cold.

<GAG>

I think I'll be having nightmares about these folks.

Yucky!

I had a woman at the library today for a "Computer Help" session (which I do Thursdays), and she said she couldn't find a job, either. She had applied to McDonald's and was disappointed when she didn't hear back from them.

She probably didn't hear back from them because she was filthy and stinky. Her shirt had stains and dirt all down the front, her hair hadn't been washed in forever, etc. It was hard to sit beside her and smell her body odors.

Did I say anything about this? Heck, NO! It's not a librarian's place, in my opinion. I just helped her find job postings on the Internet.

Funny, she said she'd been recently married, too. Go figure. I suppose if you're stinky and your spouse is stinky, too, all is well with the two of you.

Homeless maybe?

One of the reasons homeless people stay homeless unfortunately, is they have no where to go to shower, get clean clothes or maintain their own body.

I remember bathing in concrete park in Albq ( clothed of course) in hopes of smelling well enough to get an interview, or at least not offend when I dropped off an application some where.

Maybe she was crazy.. ? Needed meds more then anything else.

I would hate to think someone just didnt care about themselves THAT MUCH ya know? (shudder)

You could say something about it as a job advisor, maybe. Like, talk about appropriate clothes and good places to find them, and appropriate hygiene as well.

I had to do that with one of my clients -- she was homeless at the time too, and really didn't have any idea how horrible she smelled. It was hard to do but she was genuinely grateful and she also got a job shortly after her "makeover." We found a good interview outfit, from jacket to shoes, at Goodwill for somewhere around $10. She was able to use food stamps for the other stuff, I think. (Shampoo, deodorant, etc.)

Forty years ago, MOST of the people who are homeless would be in mental institutions. Then, a liberal judge ruled that those people who WOULD BE ABLE TO FUNCTION IN SOCIETY, could not be held in mental institutions against their will. The problem with this fine sounding liberal appoach is that the judge assumed that the people released from the institutions WOULD CONTINUE TO BE MONITORED BY MEDICAL PERSONNEL AND WOULD FAITHFULLY TAKE THEIR MEDICATION.

I worked with a guy who it was impossible to sit near.

Self-scarification has always been a danger signal especially in the young. Here is the abstract from one researcher and her point of view:

Sharon Klayman Farber


Abstract A psychoanalytic framework provided direction for research on the association between binge-purging (bulimic) and self-mutilating behaviors, comparing them for similarities and differences. The similarities in the multiple functions and psychosomatic processes served by these behaviors are presented, as well as the phenomenon of symptom substitution. Both behaviors tend to be practiced by those with severe personality and dissociative disorders and post-traumatic stress disorder. Both serve ego-compensatory needs in the absence of the adequate ability to regulate and modulate emotions, moods, and tensions. They may serve as compensatory attempts to differentiate self and object, define and differentiate body boundaries, master severe childhood trauma by means of psychophysiological addictive reenactments, and to express emotion.

Note--

severe personality and dissociative disorders and post traumatic stress disorder.

ego-compensatory needs

absence of the adequate ability to regulate and modulate emotions

compensatory attempts to differentiate self and object.

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i thought the same - the first guy is indeed quite hot.

while this is not my cup of coffee, i have no issues with it either. if someone feels the need for this, then why the heck not. shrug.

I can respect freedom of expression.Sometime's too much is not good.Any night time job would be fine,or a special tactic's team against terrorist.At least they are not in the new's for killing 13 of our hero's at Fort Hood.They are who they are,so it be.