I'd also advise you to find something fun to do as David advised.
And one of the most fun and rewarding ways I've found to spend
my time is with children or people who are less intellectually able
than I am- because I just find them so refreshing and funny-
and again, so appreciative of any time or effort spent on their behalf.
And you can learn so much from their views and perceptions
on life that tend to be so different from your own or the
more 'normally' or 'highly' intelligent people you usually spend time with.
Where did u get them ?
My youngest brother had a difficult birth and experienced lack of oxygen and brain damage. I was four years older than he, and loved school, so I just sort of drifted in to being his teacher at home (my mother was very busy with six children) and I found that I loved being with him and helping him learn.
This, I'm sure, is what led me in my original career direction, along with the fact that I've always loved being around children.
But I found that I didn't enjoy being the person who was asking them to do tasks they found impossible to do, and subjecting them to what they viewed as constant failure (as most school systems and curriculums are set up - this is often the result for these students), so I shifted my professional role (although it was still in education) while continuing to work with these students on a volunteer basis - doing things they enjoyed.
There are all sorts of volunteer opportunities and places to 'find' people like this.
I think it's also important not to trust first impressions and make assumptions about people and their experiences or level of intelligence and ability to be thoughtful and articulate based on what you see on the surface.
This has been brought home to me twice in the past six months.
There is a man who comes into my restaurant who is a retired farmer who seemed fairly dense and I hate to say it, but just SLOW. He also seemed stern and unhappy. Initially, his outward demeanor sort of put me off.
But we started talking one day and I learned that he had a stroke a year or so back and is recovering from that. It affected his facial muscles (so that he always seems to be frowning) and his speech.
He's actually extremely intelligent- loves music- and reads any bit of history he can get his hands on and because he grew up in a village about five miles from the one I live in, has become an incredible source of interesting information for me about where I live and what has happened here and where to go to actually SEE evidence of the historical and geographical facts of this area.
Another younger guy I've met recently seemed sort of strange and just different. Again, made me initially a little confused, if not uncomfortable. I found out he was an engineer and an artist who had a car accident and sustained a brain injury. He now has epilepsy, which prohibits him from working or doing his art- he can't focus or attend for more than ten minutes at a time at this point. But again, he's a gifted person and incredibly perseverent and intelligent.
If I'd gone by my initial impression, I'd never have known that.
When r u returning to New York, Rebecca ?
I was just there in March. Will be there again at the end of June, and then again in December (around christmas).