Hello, you are doing the right thing, looking to get out.
Quote:(he is a wonderful dad he has never hurt our kids the way he has hurt me).
In regards to this, he may have many qualities that are good in a father, but he and you are the most important role models your children will ever have. When beating you his :
-teaching your children how to deal with conlfict (violently)
-teaching your children what is normal in a relationship (violence)
-teaching your children how to deal with emotional upheaval (violently)
-teaching your children to be suspicious of their partners
-teaching your children that others are to blame for your own negative actions
-teaching your children that lying is a normal part of relationships
On the opposite side, he is :
-NOT teaching your children how to form healthy relationships
-NOT teaching your children how to love your partner
-NOT teaching your children how to develop empathy for others
-NOT teaching your children how to compromise/negotiate
-NOT teaching your children how to resolve conflict
-NOT teaching your children how to deal with their emotions
-NOT teaching your children how to extend trust to others
So yes, he may have his good points...but...
As to the other stuff you said, do you realise you said :
Quote:-he is too abusive, physically and verbally, and very very jealous.
-he hit me (closed fist) but he was sure to only hit me in places that my clothes would cover up.
-he said he was sorry and he cried, but he also said that i brought out that part of him.
-from then on he always thinks im cheating, with co-workers, his cousin, his own brother, the neighbors, his friends, every one.
-he threatens to hurt me
-he also tells me that he does all of this because he loves me so much.
-he gets very violent very fast.
-im scared all the time,
-i have to watch what i say or what i do 24/7, im
-he has threaten to take my children ...he said he would still take them and vanish,
find your way out of there...there's a price to pay and it's difficult, but that's infinitely preferable to the long term price, to both you, and your children.