I'm more fond of the Kinsey scale (1-5) from purely homosexual to purely heterosexual and the notion that sexuality is the composite of nature and nurture.
Yes, I can see that - it being more of a composite than an either/or and I also think that nurture can perhaps play a role, at least in the reluctance to accept or express any latent or innate homosexual tendencies.
I used to think the tendency for homosexuality was just innate - present from birth. And I based my thinking on this from how my friends who were gay describe their feelings from a very young age - and also how I know that I felt about the opposite sex from a very young age.
I had my first crush on a guy when I was about six - I wasn't even pubescent - but I knew I was attracted to males. When I think about it, I think this must have stemmed at least partially from cultural conditioning. I knew that as a female, I was expected to partner with males, so whatever my innate sexual urges would eventually lead me to as they later emerged, my environment was pointing me toward males from the time I could observe.
When I was in college, I had a gay roommate. She'd been with males throughout adolescence and then discovered females sexually at the age of nineteen. She was not bisexual - after expressing herself as a lesbian, she had no interest in heterosexuality. She told me she had never thought of herself as gay - she just had only experienced men and thought sex with men was 'okay'. But when she experienced sex with a woman - she found sex to be 'more than okay'- she felt it was what it was meant to be for her. She was no longer interested in heterosexual sex and in fact tried to convince me as to the merits of sex with women.
I could not be persuaded to try it. It just didn't interest me - the idea or notion of it didn't at all appeal to me. I had no desire in that direction- none.
Although I do think (in some forms) womens' bodies are beautiful- I have no desire to experience one sexually. And in fact, I think this is interesting - I am more forgiving of and attracted to an imperfect male body than I can imagine being to a 'perfect' woman's body (never mind an imperfect one).
But part of me wonders if that's just because I've never experienced it. And if part of the reason I never experienced it is because it would just cause too many problems for me culturally - in other words if on Kinsey's scale I'm primarily heterosexual, but could innately be somewhat homosexual, but I suppress this because I've been imprinted culturally with the view that heterosexuality in its expression for me, is not only natural- but also less fraught with issues.
Because I did have a head massage by a woman the other day and I was sort of stimulated. I did think - 'Hmmm, if she kept this up for very much longer- I'd be turned on - by a woman'. It was very strange for me...but I have to admit- there was a response. I can't deny that.
That's why I wonder if more people aren't at least somewhat gay - but they suppress it due to cultural/ nuture/environmental factors, so they never try it.
Like someone who says, 'My favorite flavor is chocolate' and then you find out they've never even tasted strawberry.