Maybe warm milk while reading or writing in her journal?
You can tell her that's how all the cool kids are doing it.
Does she do all the getting ready for bed stuff right before she goes to bed?
I know if I'm really relaxed, I hate the thought of brushing my teeth right before getting into bed. It wakes me up. I'll brush them a while before I go to bed, before I start to wind down.
Would you be ok for a while with letting her go to bed, teeth brushed prior, but after she drank milk? Maybe just let her swish her mouth out?
In the short term, how much harm can it do?
Oh! I just thought of something. You can buy music specifically made to make brain ways go into delta sleep. I bought some off of Amazon....just search for delta sleep.
It didn't put me to sleep, but I don't sleep if there's anything playing. However, it is very relaxing. Don't expect top 10 music. It's tones and notes that replicate the rythym of delta brain waves.
You can listen to clips, some I didn't like, others, even the 20 or so seconds the clip would play, would persuade me to close my eyes and relax into it.