aw man! im broken hearted...

Maybe because you are too wrapped up in the sex part.

but im not! thats the thing... shes the only girl i ever like didnt try to have sex with.

we never even did anything. well we did but whatever, it was like maybe second base? haha..


i get this feeling when i had the chance to bang her, i should have.

seriously, its like relationships are dead.


maybe women dont like being in relationships with me. not like i care but maybe its the truth.
and hes effin ugly as hell.

im not a perfect ten but jeez..

mabe she is just trying to make me jealous.

maybe she doesnt like me..


oh well, damnit i just have to get over it. i just feel like im missing something, my longest relationship is like 1 month by the way hahaha.

oh the joy of just cuddling!

ugh im a nerd.

Uhh....What do you mean, "not like I care"?

Isn't the point of this thread that you do care about having a relationship? I mean you JUST said, "why the hell is it so hard to find a decent relationship?" ...sort of sounds like you do care, doncha think?

I guess I'm just saying, why pretend you don't care when clearly you do. It's normal to care about being with someone, you know. It's like you admitted you feel bad about something and then had to real quick backpedal and come up with some silly bluster to cover up how you feel.

if she doesnt want to choose me, then i have to accept it.

but i like her, im not gonna stalk her till the ends of the earth or anything..

OR WILL I!?!?!?!?!?!?!??!?

oh the point of that statement was that i dont care about relationships with OTHER women, with her i did..

hrm thats interesting..
i guess he might be doin UFC...


that would explain ALOT hhaha

Well then. Hard to feel bad for you, really.

The key word is "she"

Go for the dudes. The women have no time for you.


I'm sorry, OGIONIK, you seem like a really nice guy, but you are living in a tinsel world.

i live in the epitome of tinsel world.

Tell her!

Just tell her you want to try to have a relationship rather than just casual sex.

tell her how you feel.

Just tell her.

Ok sure she may reject you but I'm guessing your a big enough guy to handle that, but if you dont have a go you'll never never know.

Relationships are more than sex as you probably already know. Tell her how you feel like dadpad says. Then be willing to listen to what she says. REALLY LISTEN.

Do the two of you connect on an emotional level besides idle chit chat? Relationships with most women invlove connecting in a way that does not happen with everyone. If it's special, love happens..sex is just a bonus.

i tried before.

i dont know if i should again...


i cant tell if shes jut yankin my chain, or if shes scared of a relationship, or if she doesnt want one with me. mixed signals.


ill give it a go. if she starts with the triple-A i might just go down in flames haha

Sometimes casual sex is easier than having a relationship because in a relationship the other person actually gets to know you. Not knocking you, big O, just speaking from experience. In a one-off bang, you get to pretend to be your best possible self (as does she) and follow that fantasy to its logical conclusion. In a relationship, you have to eventually be something like yourself. All your flaws come out to play then (as do hers) and it becomes much harder to accept reality over the fantasy.

The first thing you should do, and you may already be doing it (hence your presence here on A2K), is to introspect. Work on yourself. And get rid of the I-dont-care self-protective attitude. There is no shame in caring. The next thing you need to do is to keep trying. Its the same advice we gave you about college and jobs in another thread. You dont want to give up too easily. Things worth having are worth working for.

Agreed. Well said FreeDuck!

true. i need to rescusitate me emotions.

i was reading something on prison rape (ill get to the point hold up!)


and a man said, something like "you have to harden yourself and get rid of your emotions or become submissive in this kind of environment"


it struck a note with me. i came from a similar environment....


And i hate what people say about me

my cousin " you look like your going to rob somone"
my other cousin " you look crazy, you look like a convict""you look like your about to snap and beat the **** out of someone"
my friend " your intimidating" "when i first met you i thought you were some kind of gangster.."
my family " hes no good, hes dumb"
my friend " yeah man your pretty scary..."
another friend " you seem like your about to go columbine on a nigga.."

another friend " haha, dont shoot anybody you fuckin crazy ass"

always thought i looked innocent and naive.

i guess im overcompensating.

im not used to letting myself be vulnerable...

and when i took ecstasy the first time my best friend said

"wow man ive never seen you smile before.."

I had a similar experience to yours with that drug. I have said here before that it was kind of therapeutic for me and I can see how it would be for you. I dont want to sound like Im advocating drug use, but I personally think ecstasy can do some people good. If you have a lot of pent up anger and resentment, and have trouble forgiving others, it can help. Of course, be careful who you do it with.

Okay, the stuff about you looking intimidating, or, uh, crazy...I was actually going to ask you about that exact thing on the thread about getting a job, then I decided not to for some reason.

So do you think you might be sending out some pretty obvious chip-on-your-shoulder signals to people?--like the guy you talked to about the job working with animals who told you they'd only take someone with professional experience, I just have this image of you asking this dude to take a chance on you while all the time you're sending him a clear message of "I'm just barely refraining from cussing you out"...

I've known a *lot* of people like that, who talk about how things never seem to go their way-- and I'm thinking, well, duh, it's because the rest of us actually CAN tell how pissy you are about everything! I used to notice people doing that a lot when they applied for jobs at places I worked; they'd come in and say things like "God, I've already applied ten places and I have no idea why no one's hiring me," and meanwhile they look sullen and frustrated and basically like no one you'd want to hire in a million years...and they usually seemed to think that either no one would notice this obnoxious bad attitude (it seemed like a lot of them assumed that other people were too stupid to notice much), or else that it would make people want to help them if they made it clear how unfair life is to them (it doesn't make people want to help, it makes people want to shake you).

This goes for looking for relationships, too...I've known (& unfortunately been asked out by many of them) lots of guys who ask girls out with this obvious air of "If you turn me down you're a f@#kin bitch"...and nothing makes you want to turn a guy down more

yeah i was gonna say somethin about the jobs and my "vibe" too..


haha.. seriously. im gonna start taking valiums or something before i head out for interviews.

just kidding.

i probablly should though... it would prolly work HAHA..


i have to start being happy. its very much harder than it sounds.


oh wow, if i had more love and affection it would be a lot easier...
i hate realizing sex is more a need than a want, well not sex but intimacy..

not having that is prolly what got me so angry in the first place.

so i had o excise my emotions or face the wrath of caring about them.

makes a lot of sense IMO...