Jugbo, what a sad story. But I think you did the right thing. And no, probably there wasnt much else you could have done, at any point in time. If this is indeed going to be in the past (your relationship, I mean), you'd better be proud of the way you handled it, so you are all the stronger on your feet for the next stage in your life.
The part that got to me was where you write how
you ended up "taking meds thinking there was something wrong with me" - that happens so easily, in such a situation. But most of these problems are
her stuff, and its good to see that you've come to realise its not been your fault. Whatever the other half of the story would be, it does noone any good for you to think it was.
I hope you'll still keep in contact - the way you describe that you feel - not angry, just sad - you might be able to be friends, instead. A lot of these things will no longer be your problem or your responsibility, and you'll still be close. But - best thing now is to do whatever works best for
you now, I think. I wish you luck. You sound very clear and aware, even in control, about it, and that makes a helluva difference.
sozobe wrote:How do you KNOW she has Borderline Personality Disorder? A family member has Borderline Personality Disorder, and she functions very, very well with therapy and (I think) medication. None of the side effects you mention.
BPD seems such a broad category of a disorder, at most there's some similarities and common lines, some common strategies that might help as well ... but still every individual story seems to be so totally different, to come with different symptoms, features, in different levels ... no two alike <nods>.