"We are having such a hard time and I think we need to get some help to solve it. Right now I don't feel like I can stay in this marriage. But I don't want to walk away until I have tried my hardest to make things work, and that includes going to therapy with you."
I have had this conversation in my head several times and it always comes out just like that.
I dont want to just walk up to him and say " hasta la pasta babe. thanks for the ride" But I do need to drive home the " things are not going to go this way anymore" .
The problem is that we have had 'similar' conversations, and the results never stick. 3 days.........4 days.. and then he falls right backinto pattern.
I have changed many patterns and have worked on my perception of many things and this is why it is so frustrating.
I feel as though he should go forward WITH me.. but I forget that he needs to move at his own pace. He isnt me. And there may be times he passes me in the forward movement..
Im learning to slow down and see the big picture and that is hard as well