So what did your parents hit you with?

Why wet, Mame? Did that hurt more?

Kids today don't get spanked. But I have fond memories of when I was little and kids always got spanked and often time an object was used to whack a kid.

What type of object did your parents use on you (and most likely you deserved it)?

I can raise ya, but I won't...

I was not hit very often, and I would consider the hitting I did get a very minor part of the damage inflicted on me by perfectly decent and well-meaning parents doing their absolute best by their lights.

A parent is truly saying to a kid "On calm consideration I believe that violence is the best way to influence you. I am now going to commit an act of violence upon you because I believe this is the only way to teach you to behave like a civilised being."

I dont believe in spanking either, but little Bean got spanked once.

She ran into a parking lot after deliberately jerking her hand away from mine.

I popped her on her behind and hard. I got in her face and i yelled at her for doing that.
For some reason, I dont feel bad about it.

Odd.. i can remember it clearly. And I think she does too.
Holding hands is mandatory in the parking lots now and sometimes I can just hold her pinky and she stays right next to me..

I dont promote what I did.. but.. it seemed to have worked.

Then again.. (shrug) I may pay for a therapist later on in her life so that she can work her way through that

Linkat wrote:

Kids today don't get spanked. But I have fond memories of when I was little and kids always got spanked and often time an object was used to whack a kid.

What type of object did your parents use on you (and most likely you deserved it)?

Lots of kids get "spanked". I don't know where you are living. I also think your distinction between "hitting" and "spanking" is quite false...in fact, to hit in cold blood, as it were, strikes me as almost worse than doing it in the heat of the moment. A parent is truly saying to a kid "On calm consideration I believe that violence is the best way to influence you. I am now going to commit an act of violence upon you because I believe this is the only way to teach you to behave like a civilised being." Pshaw.


I was never assaulted in the manner you rationalise and call "spanking"...but I was assaulted in the manner you call hitting a number of times.

My mother used:

her hand (she once left a perfect hand-print on my thigh...a deep bruise that lasted for a couple of weeks)

a wooden yardstick.

a plastic tube.

a wooden spoon.

dlowan wrote:

Linkat wrote:

Kids today don't get spanked. But I have fond memories of when I was little and kids always got spanked and often time an object was used to whack a kid.

What type of object did your parents use on you (and most likely you deserved it)?

Lots of kids get "spanked". I don't know where you are living. I also think your distinction between "hitting" and "spanking" is quite false...in fact, to hit in cold blood, as it were, strikes me as almost worse than doing it in the heat of the moment. A parent is truly saying to a kid "On calm consideration I believe that violence is the best way to influence you. I am now going to commit an act of violence upon you because I believe this is the only way to teach you to behave like a civilised being." Pshaw.


I was never assaulted in the manner you rationalise and call "spanking"...but I was assaulted in the manner you call hitting a number of times.

My mother used:

her hand (she once left a perfect hand-print on my thigh...a deep bruise that lasted for a couple of weeks)

a wooden yardstick.

a plastic tube.

a wooden spoon.

I didn't mean to offend anyone. I did not mean anything about a beating or abusing.

I meant this as lighthearted in the sense that years ago it was considered o-k to spank and with an object and now it isn't. Whether you consider spanking or not, most of us that grew up in that environment really don't think that spanking is the ideal punishment for a child. But even so, I find us as adults often talking about it sort of laughing and discussing the various tools used to keep us monsters in line.

What method should be used for a 17 year old boy who gets his almost (but not quite) 15 year old girlfriend drunk on dads bottle of bundy whilst mum and dad are at work?

Have him babysit a screaming infant for several hours. Then let the girl's dad beat his ass.