titia wrote:Chai wrote:Your intitial post states "FACT"
Show your sources.
I was under the impression finances were a much more telling factor of problems in a marriage.
I got the figure recently while reading magazine on psychology. This was stated in the relationship column, and was followed by comments how and where the poll was accomplished, but I guess I was so overwhelmed with the figure itself that I paid little attention to those comments.
IMO you started this entire thread with no basis other than wanting to know how much others enjoyed/did not enjoy sex.
Your reading a relationship column in some unnamed psychology magazine is hardly a scientific study.
What age group responded to this thoroughly unscientific question? What fiancial status? Children? Education? Work ethic? Spiritual beliefs? Extended family issues? How long had the marriage lasted already? Newly married?
"State your sources" does not equate to "some phychology magazine" that so overwhelmed you with with figures that you can't apparantly remember its name.
As far as the statements made of "no sex, no relationship" or "what can make you feel better than sex", well good luck as life goes along.
When I was quite young, I had a bf I was quite in love with, and had great sex with. I didn't love him more deeply because of the sex, but as a bi-product of the love.
One of the things that cemented by love for him was the fact he voluntarily took care of a friend of his who was incapable of washing/feeding himself, and had a lot of physical deformaties. He wasn't even a best friend, just someone he met along the way. I knew I would still be loved by this person if something happened to me. I knew I would do the same for him.
Since then, I've based my interpretation of a good relationship with the question "Would this person wipe my ass for me? Would I wipe his ass for him?"
If I can answer yes to both those questions, sex is not going to be a problem.