Long distance

Marty and her school friend sittin in a tree
K I S S I N G.

Oh - I love crushes. One day at a time - who knows what might happen? That is what is so wonderful about this stage of a relationship! Enjoy!

Worth following up on, but I'd hold off on the committment for awhile.

Do you have his e-mail address? His phone number?

I agree with Noddy. Just by keeping in touch you can create a bond and explore the more practical aspects of getting into a relationship. Many a great romance was founded on letter writing.

It's certainly harder, but not at all impossible. Depends on the people involved.

If the question is "should I just not even follow up because it's doomed?" my answer is "no." Follow up, see what happens!

If the question is "will this work?" my answer is "who knows?" -- same as with pretty much any other relationship.

And sounds like it's distance but it's not DISTANCE on the order of Lost Girl in NYC and her paramour in London, for example. Same country, and not that far away.

What are his feelings?

Email is a perfect way to keep in contact with him. Take it from there. Don't get too ahead of yourself, you'll miss the fun.

I've known people who had long distance relationships that have not worked out and some that have. I have also known people in relationship who have lived in the same town and they have not worked out.

I am one who had a long distance relationship and you could say it worked out. We met on vacation in Florida - he lived in Montana and I lived in Mass. We hit it off of course. I, being always skeptical, didn't think it would work out, but he was determined - I am definitely worth the extra effort and distance. We kept in touch through phone and email. I would send him these great emails with stories of my day including pictures for fun. He would call me every day. Just imagine you actually end up communicating more because that is really all you have. I went to visit him for a several days after about a couple of months. He came and visited me a couple of months later. I went in visited him again and met some of his family. Then a couple of months after that he moved so he could be near me. A year and a half later or so we got married and now have two little girls.

That's a great story Linkat.

Yes Linkat, great story!

He owns a restaraunt/bar in my hometown and my sisters took me there for a drink. He recognized me right away and gave me a huge hug and we all talked for a few hours. I gave him my email and told him to contact me when he plans on coming through my town. He emailed me later that night saying that he'd hope for me to come by again before leaving town and that he definitely wants to keep in touch.

So I went back the next night alone and we talked until 1am. This time I emailed him back to tell him how happy I was to get the chance to know him again and left him my cell number. Then he responded with his cell number and for me to call him when I have a chance.

I hate this ball-in-your-court stuff. I just want to cut to the chase and know if he has feelings too. I've been so distracted all day.

He wants you to call or he would have taken your number and not called. Forget about the feelings thing, just see what develops over a little time.

OK, I'm all giddy like I was in highschool. I haven't felt this way in a very long time. I don't want to be a stalker but I'm dying to talk to him again. How long should I wait before I call?

OMG, I am SO immature!

2 days. just so it builds the tension for him.

Screw that, I'm calling him!





































just kidding. I can torture myself another day.

Anything is possible.

For me, I think it could work, if there was an end to long distance in sight.
At least once you decided that you want to be a couple.

If you already know, that none of you will be willing to move, I'd forget about it.

Call him! Don't be a wimp. He wants you to call - so what.

The nice thing about my now hubby is that he is the type that immediately knows when he likes/wants something. He knew that about me. I'm more cautious. He called me right away. He sent me flowers - it was obvious I had a cast a spell on him. He didn't care what anyone else thought and he is still like that now. Although sometimes the spontaneity can be a con also.

See, I'm a pretty cautious person too. But there is definitely a spark in me that I have not felt since my divorce. There haven't been many guys, but the few I took a chance on there were no butterflies.

I wasn't divorced when I met my hubby, but I had dated a guy for 8 years - he had talked of marriage at one time, but I finally realized he wasn't gonna marry me and I also realized marrying him would be a huge mistake - at this point I'm still seeing him out of habit.

Then I went on a skiing trip with a group of girlfriends. I met lots of guys and realized jeepers what the h*ll am I doing with this bozo, there is all these hot guys out here and I dumped his a$$.

At that point I had no interest in having a boyfriend. Sort of like you, I met some guys, dated some, but none that "sparked" my interest. Then about 6 months later on another girls' trip, I met him. I even tried to ignore the "spark", but he wouldn't let me. And then I was trapped forever.

I hope you get "trapped" too.