About 6 months ago I started planning my wedding to be held on Saturday 04/26. Well up until sunday night things were moving along nicely with the wedding day plans and then all heck broke loose!
In Feb my fiance and I went to our favorite hotel in a small town near us and happened to view the 'Grand Suite' We thought it would be prefect for our wedding reception. At the time the guest list was 20 people and we mentioned this to the hotel clerk when we booked the room for the weekend. We booked the ceremony location (outdoors) with a back up for inclement weather to have the ceremony in the Grand Suite.
We planned to have cold food trays, drinks, and cake for the reception in the Suite. Well as most guests lists do it began to grow in size. With some standing firm on my part, we were able to keep the guest list to no more than 30. Seeing as how we were changing the number of people in the Suite, I decided it would probably be a good idea to check with hotel management again just to be sure there were no issues. This is where everything went awry.
Apparently the hotel clerk who booked our room was not aware of the supposed fire code for the room was only 10 people. (It sleeps 5 easily and is roughtly the size of a large 2 bedroom apartment with a full kitchen, living room, dining room, and TV rooms) When the owners of the hotel were notified of our plan to have 30 people in the Suite they came back with the fact that they had gone to extreme expense to furnish the suite with antiques and that they just could not condone the thought of 30 people in the Suite (even if 25 of them were hotel guests and ALL are responsible adults with nice houses of their own).
Needless to say I was quite angry and immediately began to think of way to resolve the situation. Invitations have already been sent and responses recieved so there is no option of reducing the number of people on our guest list at this point.
Well needless to say my fiance was not happy with this and the moment he found out he became unglued and said some not very nice things to me because I had not followed up with the hotel sooner. ("I TOLD YOU SO!") and said that we should just cancel everything. Well, I tried to maintain focus on the 'real' event which is the ceremony itself and reassure him, the plans for that are still ground solid and that perhaps we could find some place else nearby to have the reception. (minor change for our guests who had to take time off and made hotel reservations for the night).
Since most of our guests have hotel rooms on the same floor of the hotel, and mine and my fiance's room is off the "sun porch". I said that perhaps we can simply have the reception on the 3rd floor. Open up all the rooms and have people mingle throughout the floor for the short time of the reception (2 hours max). (This would create a natural rotation in and out of the Suite so that the fire code would still be considered.)
My other options are to extend the time frame on our ceremony site (but the weather is likely to be quite hot and the venue is outdoors) or to see if I can find an alternate site for the reception in the (very) small town for the 2 hour reception.
This is where I ask for the experts help... What would you do in this situation? Would you see about finding an alternate reception site or do you think I can manage to pull off the reception in the suite?
Also, needless to say as the bride my feelings were incredibly hurt by the my fiances reaction as he seemed to be more concerned with the after party sucess than the fact that were getting married. Up until this happened I was a happy bride and very excited, now reality has hit me upside the head and I've been in tears for two days trying to think of a good alternative and forget the fact that the groom is more concerned about other things than my hurt feelings and lack of support in coming up with an alternate solution. I even considered last night calling everything off I was so hurt