dagmaraka wrote:I think I'm probably a guy..... either that, or i don't buy this whole male-female division. i think most of my female friends tend to be, like me, problem solvers- that's why we're friends i guess. i don't enjoy long venting chats if they are not aimed at constructive resolution. i'm pretty much an introvert. and i guess growing up with family therapist i was brought up that way - to problem solve. and maybe it's partially also a cultural thing, though we do have the same stereotypes about women. dunno, i guess i just don't see it divided like that around me, not in the U.S. either. especially since i have a few male friends who DO love to share and vent (if A. calls, i only pick up if i'm 'ready' for the conversation, and usually i'm not, so i call back when i am...) and most of my female friends do not.
I'm not married and as a result, I've become more reserved and reliant on myself, therefore I don't vent a lot and I attempt to ride out some of my trouble spots/anxieties quietly (this has not always been the case).
I do think marriage encourages the points Chumly has raised. Have you ever been on the receiving end of conversation with a woman in the middle of planning her wedding? She's incapable of talking about anything else.
Or, I have an acquaintence who I see at the pool where I swim who is now pregnant and inevitably all the conversation comes round to her.
The news alert is-- it's not all about them, but it gives them a chance to step out of ordinary life albeit, briefly, while maintaining their traditional role in the contract of marriage culture.
I think this is where the venting thing comes from, as well.