Hi all,
I'm not trying to solve her problems, but in order to empathize in an intimate manner I essentially take on her troubles to some noticeable degree (in perception if not in fact).
I do not see how you could empathize in an intimate manner without essentially taking on said troubles to some noticeable degree (in perception if not in fact).
I am not sure even my wife has the
right to vent, if the net result drags me down, even if it makes her feel better, why not just talk to the dog if all that's wanted is an ear....the dog's are much bigger.
I should prolly learn to fake listening better, that way she gets what she wants and I don't have to wonder what planet she's from.
If as some have posted, problem solving is not wanted but a good ear is, then I take that to mean empathy.
Quote:Empathy is often characterized as the ability to "put oneself into another's shoes", or to in some way experience the outlook or emotions of another being within oneself, a sort of emotional resonance.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Empathy
That can be, as discussed, burdensome.
Reminds of the tune:
The road is long
With many a winding turn
That leads us to who knows where
Who knows when
But I'm strong
Strong enough to carry him
He ain't heavy, he's my brother
So on we go
His welfare is of my concern
No burden is he to bear
We'll get there
For I know
He would not encumber me
He ain't heavy, he's my brother
If I'm laden at all
I'm laden with sadness
That everyone's heart
Isn't filled with the gladness
Of love for one another
It's a long, long road
From which there is no return
While we're on the way to there
Why not share
And the load
Doesn't weigh me down at all
He ain't heavy, he's my brother
He's my brother
He ain't heavy, he's my brother...