Hawkeye10 wrote:Quote:You must hang around people who are more evolved than I have experienced.
Maybe so, but I know that if I was to do something equal to this, that there is a consequence for my action.
Quote:I don't think one can assume that others act with a comprehension of how their actions will effect others or even themselves at a future date.
Pretty damned sad thing, wouldn't ya say?
So...your telling me that if a group of idiots decided to jump off a bridge, and that if you were apart of that group, it wouldn't cross your mind that your actions mind result in dying? You rob a bank, you might get caught? You stomp through the poison ivy and you'll get a rash? You sleep with a siblings spouse and you might get found out and hurt said sibling?
You know, if you'd used a "drunk" here as an example, then I would agree with you. They usually don't think before they act.......
I'll never believe that this girl didn't have one iota, inkling, smidgen of comprehension of what kind of consequences her actions would result in.
She said it herself how she was raised, and how her parents felt about women and their behavior. She knew that from the start.......
If I had to put money on it, this girl wanted him from the start....think about it. She stated herself that she didn't think he liked her. What would make him hit on her so blantantly if she wasn't throwing him a few clues along the way? I don't know many men that would hit on a cold fish for the hell of it. There has to be something that sparked that curiosity with him to approach her......
Quote:Sadly I also don't think it can be assumed that everyone cares about how their actions effect others. The mind is a pretty crazy place sometimes, it is amazing what it can overlook and ignore and refuse to learn.
Well, your right there, case in point.........
It just never fails to amaze me that people will put themselves in this situation; get themselves between a rock and a hard spot than try to find any excuse in the book to lay the blame elsewhere.
It is just as much her fault as it is the BIL's, much more so because she had the chance to say.."NO, this is wrong...this will hurt my sister and I can't do this to her." ...............then walk away.
mushypancakes wrote:Quote:For what it's worth, makemeshiver, I didn't think you were so hard.
In reality, what her sister may do or say to her is way worse than what anyone here can say.
Her own actions may bring about losing her sister. And it would be on her own head.
What she did to sis - now that is hard!
In some families, that would be cause for much worse than cutting her from her life.
And I'm glad others have stood up to say "You aren't the victim in this. Your sister is."
TY, I didn't think I was to hard on her either. Even if I was, she deserved to hear it along with what you and the others had to offer her as well.