hopelessly devoted wrote:purplekylie22 - what is your e-mail address or do you have yahoo so we can chat? I think it sounds like a good idea.
Hello,
I am new to this forum and this is my first post but I feel compelled to respond. This December over a series of weeks I found out my husband of 10 years has not only done exactly what you have described but went as far as meeting and spending the night at with her during one of his trips. I will not bog down this thread with my story. I had no clue this was happening. I actually accidentally found something suspicious and confronted him. He denied the data. My gut told me something was wrong. His story did not line up, the look on his face and the way I felt during that conversation. I researched and confronted him with more. The more I uncovered during my research the more information he finally admitted to as true.
I thought about tricking him in the matter you two have talked about. I sat and thought about what I was trying to find out. What I really wanted to know was, was there something going on and how far did it go. Of course this decision is up to you. I suspect you know your husband enough to know when he is telling you the truth. Can you trust your gut or read his actions?
My advice is this. Ask, ask and ask again. Confront and talk. Get a counselor if you are not getting anywhere. Get a counselor even if you are, you need someone to talk to. Do this before it is to late. This problem is between you and your husband. Don't bring a stranger into this. You need a clear mind and open communication. Be strong.
Take it as you like I will not be offended. I am too busy trying to find all the pieces to my marriage.
Good Luck.