cant change?

I cant stop thinking of this other man. But then my husband calls and its all i can do to stop thinking of him. i think i am in love with two men, because both of them are so completely opposite from one another. I love my husband though. I dont want to even consider divorce. But when i think of breaking things off with this other man, and leaving him and not being able to speak to him or have anything to do with him, THAT makes me sad as well..

what do i do!!!??? tell my husband i am cheating
or
do i keep it quiet and then just dump this other guy