Serial Cheaters - Narcissists

Get out of the marriage immediately!!!! He will NOT change. I wasted 17 years with my husband and had 3 beautiful children all of whom are now suffering because of their dads constant cheating. They are bewildered that their dad is such a womanizer and now in their late teens so can really understand it. I regret so much not leaving earlier and when I read what u had posted felt like I was reading my own life so had to reply to you. My husband always convinced me to stay and cried buckets of tears the day I finally left but i was horrified at the things I latter found out about him and just how much he had cheated on me. I will say that while the first year was emotionally very tough for me 4 years on and Now am very happy. Every so often though I still suffer from trauma and constantly wonder why did I stay so long? He will not change no matter what he says - even if he truly believes it himself. You Are dealing with damaged goods and you owe it to yourself to make a better life for YOU as you deserve it. Believe me!! If u stay you will spend more nights crying and wondering with knots in your stomach and this is not what marriage is supposed to be. Good luck and I hope you give some thought to my words as I wished someone had been this honest with me.

Hi Lawless and welcome to A2K. This thread is a little dated, but there are plenty of people looking for relationship advice from someone whose been there. If you click on "New Posts" on the menu bar, you can see all the hot topics right now.

I was with a narcissist was married close to 4 years. I was deluded with someone who doesn't exist. He was charming as if I found my soul mate. Everytime I was on the way with pornography, prostitution, strip club, womanizing, online dating he would beat me. He was verbally, emotionally, spiritually and physically abusive. I filed for divorce March 2013 his goal was to break me. He found his soon to bs third wife who looks like his daughter. He met his match. No contact is the best contact.

I have just broke up with this kind of person and boy did I love him infact still do about a month ago.there's nothing I would n't have done for that man i stay home with parents he also stays home with parents that's how bad his lifestyle is his a 36 year old man who only has a car as his personal possession . But I loved him still I would be the submissive girl friend. His diabetic so I understood very well that he needs to be fed all the time so I would mostly make time to go to where he teaches to deliver lunch box. Sex is not what makes one to love you bu we had regular sex and great one we spent almost every day together after work but he still took time during weekends to travel to where I had no idea at first. He has a daughter and I have a son and her mother passed away in 2010 and he and I started dating 2011 and I love his daughter as my own. Untill one day I stambled on his facebook account and realized all the trips he takes are to meet girls all the way to swaziland everywhere he even has dating sites that he constantly. Meet these woman even when I had found out about them he continued and he would say I'm his wife all these people mean nothing and he needs a bit of time to draw away from them.I believed him because he would introduce me to every1 who mattered to him and I was there by his side all the time. But my jealousy finally got the better of me when I started to call these women and he and I would constantly fight and he would say that its hard for him to decide anything as I'm busy fighting him one day he said he loved me but sometimes I'm just stupid because I act out of anger. Even said I am not worth it so choosing to be with me would mean he becomes a punching bag all his life mean while I have weighted over 4 month for him to leave those woman as he said he will . One day I spoke to my priest and he told me that this guy has been like that for so long and the mother of his child had the same problem that when I decided I need to leave for gud I had tried so many times to leave but could n't until one day he borrowed money from me to attend church in another town.and he he just went to see his girlfriend and I would realise this because I would not be able to reach him and he would even disappear on whatts app. That was it for me I told him we are done . I had become obsessed with stilling his phone and breaking his passwords kept the numbers of his girlfriends on my phone so I would be able to watch him chatting with them on whatts app. I was angry all the time with those woman but never him . I often asked god why he let me love that man that much if he was not mine. So mannytimes I would pray for him I still do but this time so he could change him for his daughters sake

I googled Narcissist and Serial Cheater and came across this blog. This fits my ex completely. I was going through a bad time in my marriage. My husband and I decided to split. I met Tom in a chatroom (I hadn't been in one in years, now remember why). He was younger, and charming and persuasive.

He would drive to see me every week, and we'd chat daily on skype or through text. He was always very secretive with his phone & computer. Always had locks on them and was careful what he would allow me to see. Quite often while we were skyping he'd be getting texts and he'd say they were from his sister's boyfriend or people at work. He also had random girls popping up on his facebook as friends. Girls he claimed to know from years ago.

He begged me to move in with him and I did. The first few days it was great. Very affectionate, loving, attentive... and then he started getting cold. We hadn't even made it a week and I was getting suspicious again because he was constantly getting texts.

While he was at work he made the mistake of leaving his IPAD signed in and I was able to see his emails. He had emails from girls on match.com all while he was with me. As I was packing my stuff to leave he became angry & told me I had an hour to get my stuff out or he would call the police. Then also told me that there was more than just that girl. After a while when I told him I had loved him and couldn't understand why he would treat me that way, he said he'd stopped talking to those girls the day I moved in. I didn't believe it, so I continued packing & left. Later to find he'd put a new "in a relationship" status on his facebook the very day I left with another girl. This girl who I realised he'd been texting but was told it was a guy from work (she has a name that could be either male/female).

Everything that article said is him. He cries on queue, I've actually never witnessed a man cry as much as he did. He was so good at lying or I was just so "in love" with the person I thought he was that I believed him. He was constantly telling me how he needs me to make him happy. Everything was about him. How he needed looking after, and I did everything cooking, cleaning. But now I see he never loved me because he's incapable of loving anyone but himself.

I'm replying to this because people have accused me of narcissism.

I was married to a man who after the first few years of our marriage seemingly decided it was time to become more possessive of me.

When we married, I could do no wrong, despite the fact that he himself, like the other men I knew, flirted with me like crazy and wanted to do everything sexually possible with me, even asking me about my previous experiences, etc. He enjoyed my sexuality, reveling in it.

I myself enjoy sex very much. He knew that. He knew, too, that I enjoyed being attractive and attracting other people and that I wasn't exactly the type to say "no" to everyone who arouses my feelings. I certainly didn't say "no" to him, nor to certain of his friends either before we were married when I was single. But I never humiliated him. I never tried to make him jealous. Never tried to hurt him. I'm not a loud mouth nor "the center of attention." I stay out of the spotlight if I can. In fact, I do not like that type of person much. However, I like to have fun and the most fun for me is of a sexual kind. My husband knew that, too. I told him repeatedly, "Don't expect me to be a little lamb." I didn't expect the same of him either, by the way. Despite feelings of jealousy, I certainly didn't interfere when he flirted or obviously was arranging something with another woman. So when he changed towards me and became more and more jealous, I got angry....