Serial Cheaters - Narcissists

i just ended a seven year narcissistic relationship they are sly and quick to react. I was cheated on from the first day we met just to stupid to believe it.

i just one and i it way well any idea of what might lie ahead of me. I have a feeling I should always be watching my back

Be careful with that....it is easy to die before the body gives out. I am very leery of regretting anything that I have done for love for just this reason. Bitterness is the enemy for you now.

I just arrived at this site, on this thread. Mine has made me feel like I'm crazy when he is really doing this. 20 years. But I'm going all-out tech--more with each paycheck. My youngest will graduate in two years. I will be financially and legally ready. He really can't imagine that I know all that I do know.

The most important thing is to change the person you can change--yourself. I didn't make him unhappy. I cannot make him happy. Only causing people to become infatuated with him can do that.

You should say instead, lets help these kind of people. They lack of self esteem. So, I believe they should be send to treatment.

I think that, this article makes good sense. I have no similar experience like that. Do You love serial cheating as a concept ?

Not wanting to put a selfish spin on the thread, especially since so many people have been so open and honest about their lives and the terrible things that they have had to deal with - thank you -- but:
Given that so many people fall victim to such disgusting narcissistic people, how is it best to notice the signs and avoid them before it is too late?

I am a narcissist, exactly like described in your post. However, i have never cheated, nor i ever will. The very idea is utterly disgusting, but i do have multiple flirts i like to see squirm. It does give me enormous satisfaction. My fiance knows about it and doesn't mind, as i have no physical or even emotional involvement with them. It's all about power and enjoying the art of lying. Just to say, narcissism isn't the only factor to look out for as cause of compulsive cheating. A narcissist isn't the devil, unless you are weak enough to make for a tasty target. In that case, it's just the law of the jungle.

You could try a nunnery Queenie.

Ha! You know I think I'd rather take the risk..

Therein lies the difficulty. The problem is that many narcissists are outwardly charming and manipulative, that a person is "sucked in" before he even realizes it.

Also, narcissists are often extremely adept at "reading " people. They will go after someone with whom they perceive a weakness, and exploit it.

i cannot believe that i have endured 9 years of serial infidelity...not know from one day to the next, being continuously mentally and emotionally being beaten up, five known affairs, one that lasted for about 4 years until about a year and a half ago and one that started (as i suspected) about 7-8 months ago
and she of her own accord told me about 2 weeks ago and even went out of town with him last night and texted me about it...she says she needs his sex and will continue with him. I asked why she told me...she says because she wanted to tell me the truth.Is this a move on her part to to (help me) end it with her or is it her getting herself to a new mental and emotional high.

Does it really matter why she told you this?

Run, don't walk, outta there.

She told you this, and you haven't left yet? This has to be her emotional high of the year.

She has the nerve to be bragging about her torture of you. She has no integrity or honesty so that is yet another ruse.

Stop the pain! You will live better a far better life without it and her.

Your post could have been written by me....been married 15 years now....just found out he has a 4 month old from another woman - of course I found out on my own - he would NEVER have told me while he was with her and me he was seeing another woman - I can name 20 women he has slept with over the past 3 years. I am filing for divorce. I am independent like you....they mind screw us...I hope you got out...please let me know you did. I need the strength. Kimberly

I am married to one. I hadn't come across the term but when I read it my blood ran cold. He had an affair with our babysitter denied it point blank. I knew I was right his lies and treatment led me to hospital. He called the police who thought there was a domestic. I went voluntarily to hospital
and was diagnosed bipolar at the age of 49 most are diagnosed in their late 20's.
I was in hospital for a month when I came home there was no welcome just beratement for being ill. He is now the martyr and I am his cross to bear . He has taken it upon himself to tell our friends that I am bipolar. Meanwhile he carries on with his affairs and addiction to porn. He has a profile on adultfriend finder I looked at the site and was disgusted it caters for those who just basically want to f**k no strings attached. He comes home with scratches on his back he can't explain. He takes his phone to the bathroom. Yet because I am bipolar I am not believed. Narcissists don't change their lies get more elaborate.
He is paranoid too he admitted that he had read my diary this ws from 5 yrs ago and was a single entry. He also took my iPhone but of course denies it.
I have no privacy I found my eBay items being followed on his phone .
He even broke the lock on my jewellery box. Recently he took my purse and a set of keys from my bag. There is no point asking him for them as from
bitter experience he will deny it and again insinuate that I unwell.
So to conclude I am divorcing him , I deserve better.

Would you say my husband is a Narcissist, and a serial cheater...what would you do if you were in my shoe? We have been together for over three years...he has cheated on his wife a few times and I found out when we were together he was in touch with one of his affairs and telling her he was now living with a roommate and not a girlfriend, he was picking up souvenirs for her and I, emailing her telling her how he went to a concert, and not we went to a concert etc and when I complained he said she meant nothing and he will stop communicating with her etc over and over and asked her to start emailing him only at work or no more emails just phone calls etc....and now that we got married a few months ag o I noted he added her onto one of his social networking and is emailing her through that and is claiming that has not been in touch with her for over a year only emailed her to tell her he is now married, not explaining why he found the urge to email her now if has not been in touch at all, and I told him if really meaning to break it off, he just does not get in touch with her nor responds to her emails and phone calls any more and she will get the message, and he gets really mad that I don't trust him etc....am I asking for too much telling him he must stop any kind of contact with this woman who he had an affair with while he was married and she was in a relationship? would love to hear your opinion I have asked him he must take her off of his site and stop all communications, he is refusing to take her off...we just got married 5 months ago and all the other aspects of our relationship is fantastic....what would you do?????

How to Detach from a Narcissist
http://www.cheating-infidelity.com/Home/narcissism/detaching-from-narcissist.html

yoh this sounds exactly as my patener offen talks about marriege and kids cheats a lot recently found out that his dating 6 girls all at once everytime when I try to leave he cries.