Kansas--
Eoe and Mismi have given you excellent advice.
Quote:He listens to me then eventually acts like it was never said because he believes the problem is fixed or he doesn't want to deal with it (I'm not sure which).
Your husband is willing to listen to you vent--lots of husbands won't listen--but he can't solve the problem because the problem is yours.
I'm guessing you're a one-car family?
Being home with a charming toddler is a brain-sapping experience. My mother lived through WW II with three children in diapers and swore that if it weren't for the telephone she'd never say anything except "hot" or "wet" or "dirty".
Can you afford--although you might need to budget--one of the calling plans where long distance calls are either free or a very low rate? Being an hour and a half away from family and friends is hard but the telephone wire can be a life line.
Is there a park within walking distance with playground equipment? Parks and playgrounds are a wonderful place to meet other young mothers. I'm still friends with a woman I met in the '60's at the Riverside Park 103rd Street Sandbox.
When your husband is home, can he watch your daughter while you go grocery shopping or run errands? Just getting out of the house without clenching a sticky little fist is liberating.
Check out A2K and other sites on the computer for socializing during the day. Check out the news sites for conversational topics with your husband. What does he think about Michael Vick? About Karl Rove? About Don Imus?
Just as importantly, what do you think about these people.
Date night is a great idea.
Also, what little romantic guestures have you been making lately? Catering to Your Man is very old fashioned, but sometimes old fashioned works. What are his favorite dishes? What sort of clothes does he like?
The hard part of "old fashioned" is to convince yourself that he works hard and deserves the time he's spending on the computer--at least some of the time.
Good luck.