Should I ask for my daughter or no ?

let me change my answer.

Your first post, and probably your second post will be removed because you are not allowed to post personal websites here.
Particularly ones where you are asking for money, or selling something.

You are allowed to post general questions however. Just keep the personal sites off your post or they will be deleted.

How old is your daughter? If she is young and has a financial need to help cover the medical bills then I would say that you should ask. Young people especially can make costly mistakes like crossing the yellow line while turning the radio station. That does not mean they should be judged harshly or made to suffer huge medical bills. I think I would have to know more about what happened to make people say you should not help her. Can you tell more?

You are wrong. I feel sorry for your daughter having been in an accident, but what gives you the right to ask for money to pay for her medical
needs?

You said, your daughter caused the accident herself, what about the
other car(s) involved? Did anyone else get injured due to your daughter's
fault?

Friends of mine lost their lives in a car accident last year, and left
3 small children behind. None of the family members ever asked for money - although a fund was set up for the children by friends and relatives.

Again, I feel compassion for your daughter, but none for you. On the
contrary, it is in very poor taste what you're doing.

The Accident
My Daughter was going to school that morning 7:30 am she had her license for less than 24 hours.she had one too many under 18 years of age passagers in the car.she went around a curve she lost control and hit a police officer head on.She was hurt pretty bad.She boke every bone in her face.Her mouth was wired shut.she broke her sturnum in 2 places,she had a mental rod and 12 screws in her leg.she broke her arm.She had to be cutout of the car ,she was charged wih careless & reckless and crossing the center line.I have gotten some heat beacuse the news papers did a story and said she need help with medical bills her face was cut in about 7 places so forth

I do understand a small amount about the opinion
yes I see where your thoughts are but she is a very yong person.And she was hurt very bad there was nothing to help with medical bills and she does also have oagn damage so if i understand you right?you think she should sufer for the rest of her life for a mistake she was not drag racing or drugging she was going to school.I am sorry about your friend honest

EAngel, what happened to the other kids she took in the car?
What happened to the police officer she collided with head on?

yes others whee invovled
she hit a police car that was carrying her child and friend to school .they did not get hurt bad.one had a broken ankle and one a dislocated shoulder
but the car insurance coved that and gave them extra.She had nothing to help her and she has at least 6 more operations to go

Everyone but her is fine
the policeoffer is back at work.the child in the police car had no injuries.the girl n the car with her one is fine the other had a broke ankle but is fine at out doing what teenagers do my daughter is not

So in the police car was her friend with child? Here you wrote
.....she had her license for less than 24 hours.she had one too many under 18 years of age passagers in the car

How many kids were in her car?

So if it where your child ?
I am trying to be fair and do the right thing but without help.She will have no future.So should I let her needs go undone.she is 17 and a good kid.She was hurt she is lucky to be alive.But i want to be sure about this because without help.She will lead the rest of her life suffering.

okay, I understand now.

Actually, EAngel, your daughter is lucky that none of the others involved
got hurt more than they did, otherwise your daughter would face far
more than her own medical bills.

Well, I think you are an irresponsible parent, if you let your
daughter drive with passengers in the car. It is common law everywhere
in the US that minor drivers are not allowed any other passengers in
the car but adults.

Furthermore, if you let your daughter drive a car, why don't you provide
adequate health coverage for her?

There was 2
she had two friends in the car.No the police officer was carying he child to school.and had pick up a homeless man to give him a ride

EAngel, I think you are doing the right thing. If people do not want to help and want hold something against your daughter when it could have just as easily been their teenager, then they do not have to help.

Those that know your daughter and know that it could have been their teenager that made one mistake will be compassionate. Tell her to be strong and everything will work out for her and your family.

Re: So if it where your child ?


There are so many things you can do, EAngel. Instead of going to
online forums soliciting money, you could hold a bake sale in your
town. Bake some cookies and sell them, hold a rally to benefit your
daughter, and so on and so on.

Going online and soliciting money is certainly not generating the
monetary help you sought.

This is a Struggle
I see that there are mix answers. The reason i posted the website unaware your not suppose to was so people cold read the story and what is ans was going on.I love my child very much all my kids in fact.But i have faced a lot people saying it was plain out wrong to ask for help for her.i have even ahd peolpe say she got what she deserved.I can't help but thnk who has not made a mistake? if she had been high i would understand some peoples reaction.But the thing is she lost control of the car. in a curve and she did take the worse of the accident she has some problems an a steel plate in her jaw though there was 5 other involved she took the worse everyone else in back to tere life.She says she never what to drive again in her life.She punctured a lung and bruised her heart.And she also has has nero problems I am doctored out and they are already hounding me for bills

you mean the website?
You are talking about the website ? Because I am not asking for money here.I am trying to understand the negative replys to trying to help her and a bake sell would not help her she has bill that go into 6 figures.and some doctors say they cannot go any further without money.

Don't you have insurance?

I assume you are in the USA if you are having these troubles. I have no problems with you asking for money, if people want to give they will give. If they don't want to give they won't.

If you are being chased for bills you need to speak to the financial aid department at the hospital and see if they will arrange a monthly payment plan. The hospital knows they are better off getting a little each month than having you go bankrupt. The biggest problem you will have will be doctors and therapists who will refuse to treat her, or only give her inferior attention, because your family does not have the money to pay. If she needs medication she might not be able to purchase it without cash up front. You might want to speak to your state's Medicad office and see if you qualify for help. I hope things get better for you and your daughter.

Thanks for the replys
Yes I am in the USA.And as far as insurance i had to pay for the car she had gotten for a year it wa 1000.00 car.i took me 3 months to pay for the insurance the car was because she was getting ready to be a senior.and she was going to attend high school during the morning and a tech college in the afternoon and i have other kids and could not get her back and forth and she almost failed because a person she road with her last semester did not pick her up half the time.I was not thinking she would would wreck at least not on the level she did