Objectification

Meh. Our sexuality goes much deeper than what we do when we are naked. For example, men are often sexually threatened by certain colors. A man may avoid wearing certain colors because of what they feel it projects about their sexuality.


That is what I am trying to understand. Why should projection of sexuality guide what you should wear?

1) "Objectification" is the act of one person using another person in a manner where only the aggressor party benifits. The non-aggressor is in sense treated as "material" and hense the phrase "objectification": the act of making someone into an object.


3) Men often objectify women for sexual desire. Further Women, are not characterized as objectifying men for their sexual desires. ]

After drawing this conclusion, we started wondering if the act of objectification was simply a male triat or if women objectify others as well and we just don't readily recognize their behaivors as objectification. So we started talking about what that might look like.

If men objectify to meet their sexual desires, we figured that we should investigate what female desires are and then we might have a clue as to where if anywhere women objectify men.

4) We hypothesize that emotional desires are what women are willing to objectify men for. The most obvious example that came to mind for us was the senario where a woman may find herself in a relaionship where her sexual desires and security are present, but emotionally in deficit. In this senario the woman may outsource to another more compassionate male to augment her needs/desires. the second party male in this case we theorized is being objectified as his needs/desires are not met. This senario we desribed as being what some refer to as the "emotional affair."

So the question: In what ways do people objectify other people? Is sexually objectifying someone a greater offense than emotionally objectifying someone?


EB If all meaning were that clear would we be discussing these terms.

I agree I am not all that clear in my communication as most of you. probably a lot younger too !

But I dont understand your question. Yes Ideally speaking you should not look as women and think of just Sex unless they are your consensual sex partners. If you can't help it then you should avoid looking at them whenever possible. Do I agree with women walking out dressed up for a mere projection of sexuality , Definitely not. So I see a problem at both ends.

It is part of the cultural shock I am going through that here people are afraid to be emotionally close to each other, but being physical is much more acceptable

Yes Ideally speaking you should not look as women and think of just Sex unless they are your consensual sex partners. If you can't help it then you should avoid looking at them whenever possible. Do I agree with women walking out dressed up for a mere projection of sexuality , Definitely not. So I see a problem at both ends.

What do you mean here? What don't you want men to do when you dress up?

ebrown_p wrote:

"... if I don't want you to get too excited..."

What business is it of yours if I am excited or not?

You have no right to control what other people think.