I don't know why Layman got a thumb down; his answer is pretty good.
Last time I was around these here parts, you would invariably contradict whatever I said. I have "fans" who vote down every post I make, regardless of content, topic, or anything else, doncha know? I figured you might be one of them.
I like to think I only contradict things I truly disagree with, and I also try to provide something to back up what I write in that situation.
at times your arguments seemed (to me) to be rather strained and artificial.
you should assume that women will react well when you approach them
i'm translating a book about how to approach a women because of the request of a male customer (sorry because this topic can offend you). But the book has a confusing text:
"Since appearances matter so greatly with regard to your attitudes (that is, it is more important to appear certain than it is to actually be certain), it is actually not necessary to have positive expectations, as long as you at least always act like you do. Your attitude will catch up quickly, but in case it needs some time to do so you should assume that women will react well when you approach them [...]
What is best for a male to wear all has to do with his attitude. Since a lot of attention is not essential for a male to be attractive to women, there is no point for him to wear bright colors for the sake of being more visible [...]At the end of the day, his attitude is far more significant and is the one thing a male should focus on, while his style should be at the bottom of his list of areas for improvement when it comes to getting girls."
It's hard to be sure, but within the limited context given here, he seems to be equating what he calls 'attitude" with an air of self-confidence. A confidence that your advances will be favorably received, etc. He thinks it is important that you "appear" confident, even if you aren't.
The author seems to be saying that sincerity can be dispensed with, since women are so stupid that the mere appearance of confidence is enough to bamboozle them into spreading their legs. That book is nasty misogynistic claptrap.
"Always be sincere, even if you don't mean it." (Harry S. Truman)
Seriously though, you reach a rather extreme conclusion and unwarranted condemnation, I think. I would agree that women prefer confident men to those lacking confidence. There's seldom, if ever, been a man in battle who who wasn't "scared." But there's still a difference between brave men who will resist notwithstanding their fears, and the cowards who cut and run at the first sight of potential danger. Standing and fighting might "appear" to be fearlessness, but it aint.
Call the "brave" men insincere if you want. I wouldn't. And, even assuming they are 'insincere," I say "good for them."
Quote:you should assume that women will react well when you approach them
You should assume that everyone of whatever sex will react well when you approach them (if they want you to approach them). No argument with that. However one kind of guy that women actually hate is the kind of man who thinks he is "God's gift to women".