I'm the cheater & didn't tell my husband till 15yrs later

Yes he did ask me throughout the years but he says he was in denial.

He knew I had gone out with him he just didn't know I had slept with him, he had his suspensions but was on denial.

he needs counselling for his own issues if he can't leave what you both did in your late teens/early 20s behind

in the meantime, take care of yourself and your needs

I think I'd tell him this wasn't up for any more discussion unless it is in front of a counsellor.

He said he goes on support forums & he compares the other woman's stories with mine. Like they remember every detail. I said I'm not them, he knows my memory isn't the best & I've taken that memory out of mind. I think to him what's worse is that I don't remember much of it.

"He goes on support forums & he compares the other woman's stories with mine."

Ah - the plot thickens!

So he's on duty overseas and he's lurking around "forums" (WHAT kind, exactly?) that talk about sex. And he is transferring all this cheating/sex talk onto YOU! (Check the phone bill, is he paying for all this?)

Stop this ridiculousness right now.!

Tell him to grow up and know you aren't like those women he's getting his jollies with, on-line. He's abusing you from afar.


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