Amrco - given your basic difficulties with the language here (which we will be glad to help you with), why would you taunt an early poster?
I'll admit she was admitting enjoyment of an unusual post for this forum. A2k tends not to be boring. Don't take that personally, please.
Most of us - but not all of us - reading are perplexed that you would consider marrying someone you hardly know, or that she would consider marrying you. Some of us here on a2k are from cultures where arranged marriages are the norm.
For others of us, this is amazing, that someone would be able to choose our life partner for us. In any case, we do understand we have different cultures.
stuh505 wrote:If you noticed slanty foreheads on your inbred childrens' foreheads, a vicegrip can do wonders to correct that; worked for the Egyptians.
Amrco wrote:i'm from Egypt , i'll answer u to the end .
stuh505's comment was extraordinarily accurate then? Wow, that's damn creepy...
Amrco, if your cousin is only 16, chances are she won't have decided what she wants in life. It is a very young age to get engaged, and for a teenager that young, that much commitment can seem extremely daunting. Have you ever 'done' anything with her? Kissed her? More?
How are you so sure she loves you back?
Silence speaks across all cultures, doesn't it?
She goes quiet when you tell her you love her and want to engage her. I think that is an answer. It means "I don't want to talk about it".
why can u be so confident about that ,
u forget to ask me about if i'm a friend of her big brother ,
and the answer will be yes ,
couldn't this reason be an answer for her silence ( she's afraid of me telling her big brother about her love to me )
Do you think perhaps if you were to engage her now, that her family might shun you AND her for going against their beliefs? Might that be a little harsh on her? Maybe she does love you, but she loves her parents/siblings more, so she wouldn't want to risk losing them, for you?
Sorry if that sounds harsh. It just seems, that if you were offering her something that might mean completely cutting off from the rest of her family (if they disapprove) she might be reluctant.
Would you tell her brother? Maybe you should talk to her alone, reassure her that she can trust you not to tell anyone, and see what you can work out between you from there..
Were the emails and mobile messages flirtacious? Or were they just general chit-chat?
(Just trying to see the whole situation)
I'm trying to help. Step back and see what she does now. You have made yourself clear.
It's up to her now.
this is exactly what i had done starting from 2 days before , thank u for helping and i hope god help me in this hard decision .
Can't you just continue to be in touch with her through emails and such, and not try to push for more right now? Just develop more of a friendship with her.
(By the way, I haven't found your English to be difficult to understand, you're doing very well with it in my opinion. )
I agree with cyphercat. In my country it customary to form a friendship before continuing onto a more serious relationship. This way it helps us decide if that's really who we want to spend the rest of our lives with.
Welcome to A2K :-D