cool. so you're a fairly butch woman or a 'fleeting'ly fem man. Sounds like yer incredibly balanced.
errrrrr, not that i thought you were unbalanced, or had imbalances or anything. <<nods>>
AUUGH!!! FORGOT MEDS!!! MUST KILL!!!
Actually, took my Prevacid as normal....acid reflux yes, schizophrenia no.
I think anyone can be a good or bad parent. The only problem I can see is the child/children getting harassed be their peers. Kids can be the cruelest little creatures.
Hmmm - I appear to be a lipstick lesbian! I am not even, generally, a lipstick straight woman!
As for the parenting thing - most of the gay folk I know with children started out as parents with a heterosexual partner - the gayness came out later - so most of the kids have two involved parents - in some cases, both are now in homosexual relationships.
In the areas most of these folk live, there seems to be no problem with teasing and stuff for the kids - they are in inner city schools where there is a lot of life-style variability.
What concerns me a little is where people use anonymous donor sperm, or sperm from a male friend who remains anonymous - many kids really want a father who is involved and loving, or, minimally, identifiable and known, and some spend their lives yearning and feeling bad if this is not available. Of course, lots of heterosexuals' kids don't have that, either, for a whole raft of reasons - but I think it is a factor that cannot, and should not, be ignored.
You know what though..kids are gonna be nasty little creatures for just about any reason.
I dont think that gay/lesbian parents makes them more of a target than the unfortunate fat kid, the boy being raised by Mom, the foster child, the kid named for gramps (you know poor Eugene the Third or some such horror) or the ultimate picture perfect family child.
Kids tease, harass and generally are little twits for many reasons...do we survive this? Well, if we have a solid base, a good home, etc etc it pretty much is something of just childhood baloney. In fact, we pretty much survive unscathed no matter what and I say
damn the little twits opinion and let good parents bring up baby no matter what or when or who and how the lipstick is worn.
justmyhumbleopinionhowever.
do you think Carrie is ever coming back to her question?
or has all the lipstick thrown her off?
I'm a 34...level 2, very straight acting.
Apparently the quiz didn't take into account what those halloween costumes were.
on the guy quiz? or the girl quiz?
Both my dogs are gay, so I tested them. He's ultra-butch or some such, she's very straight-acting. Course, there was no question about whether your girl-dog furiously humps your boy dog, who stands there and looks confused. That might've changed things a bit. As for me, it turns out that I am very straight-acting, but also -- and this came as a great surprise to me -- gay. Who knew? Guess I'll have to go out and buy some socks that aren't white now.
And to the question at hand -- no better or worse parents than anybody else, on the whole. The fact that the process of having a child may be more difficult is going to tend to weed out some of the folks who probably shouldn't, but if I think of "the population" as a whole, I think they're probably pretty typical.
I think CodeBorg's assertions only really apply to those folks who have to go to some effort to have the kid. I've known my share of highly unstable lesbians -- one was even stalking a friend of mine -- but they're not the sort to end up in a child-rearing relationship.
pd, have you gotten a strap on device for your girl dog - just asking
Even doggies need to have fun, and these seems to be the one way to please them both
Judging by the way the guy takes a little thermometer, he'd be more inclined to pitch than catch.
Then he must not be that gay
Just gets off on eating himself is selfish
Asexual is probably closest to the truth. We snipped him pretty young.
(Is anyone cares to wrest this back on-topic, they are free to do so.)
Errrr, just realized we were off topic
I've know many great gay parents, whether they be woman/woman, man/man or a woman/man relationship; or for that matter, a single parent. I would fear a child growing up under the likes of John Ashcroft, Pat Robertson, Donald Rumsfeld, Rush Limbaugh or Ann Coulter much more!!!
Geez, I could hardly answer the quiz. I must be farrrrr out. OK, OK, I wear a lot of earrings. And more than 10 dresses in five years. Test skewed to younger people.
Patiodog said: "I think CodeBorg's assertions only really apply to those folks who have to go to some effort to have the kid. I've known my share of highly unstable lesbians -- one was even stalking a friend of mine -- but they're not the sort to end up in a child-rearing relationship."
I admit I have had a bad week - however, I am currently toying with the notion that the best way to ensure you have no problems with fertility is to be the worst possible person to have children! Heterosexual or any other sexual.....
Your profession can't give you the rosiest outlook on procreation, deb. (I haven't got the rosiest, either, for that matter.)
Can't remember the name of the comedian, but he's a very angry sort, talking about people who feel the simply must reproduce, and shunning adoption. "How fücking selfish can you be? There's millions of pre-made children out there, and you want to make more of them?"
Sums up my attitude about half the time. The other half, it's, like, "Huh, little people like me running around." Then the third half of the time I think that, regardless of any broader impact of reproduction, isn't a very good idea in itself...
