Sharing common interests in a relationship

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I've been dating someone for about a year now, and we do not share any common interests.

We go out to regular date places i.e. Movies, Restaurants and Shows.

Is the relationship doomed or what?

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You go out to movies, resturants and shows but don't share any common interests? Do you go see different movies when you go to the cinema? Razz

I guess maybe it is to simple but those sound like common interests to me...

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Hi Fishin,
Are you able to relate to this person? Will be able to talk freely and have fun whenever you are in this date. To me as long as the date is interesting and you are looking forward to more dates, then I do not see the problem. You know the saying, its the opposite that attracts.
However if the date are just plain ordinary and nothing special, then this relationship is just a mutual friendship :wink:

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I know man nd woman who are opposites of each other but they have been happilly married for 50 yers. The old saying, opposites attract.

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Doomed vs what? Are you looking to go beyond dating towards a long term commitment? If you are both satisfied with the relationship as it exists, then it can continue indefinitely. If you're wondering if you should live together or you're thinking of marriage, then you might want to ask yourself how you would spend that extra time together.

What was the original attraction? Does it still exist? Was it purely physical or are there other things that you like about each other?

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Nick must be right, because it seems to me that men and women are, by definition, opposites. I think some are just more opposite than others.

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My husband and I have absoultely nothing in common, but we've been happily married for about 14 years, and have known each other for 20 years.

A long time ago I asked him...."If I was a man, would we be friends"?

He said with no hesitation "F*CK no"

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Spoken like a true Texican - but did you concur?

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Isnt that the best part about dating/relationships? Being with someone who isn't exactly like you? If anything you both have your own hobbies so you're not spending every second together which is definetly healthy.

If you like being around him and vice versa then just enjoy it!

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I've been dating someone for about a year now, and we do not share any common interests.

We go out to regular date places i.e. Movies, Restaurants and Shows.

Blackie_Chan - What do you talk about when you are in a restaurant? Do you discuss the movies and/or shows afterwards?

The point that I am making is that you may have more in common than you think. Try and figure what it is that keeps you together. Do you share similar values? Are your thoughts on religion, politics, etc. either similar or complementary? Can you share your innermost fears and worries with this person?

Is she there for you when you are going through a difficult time? If you were in trouble, would she be the first one that you would think of if you needed assistance? Could you count on this person to "be there" for you in times of trouble?

If you perceive a lot of positives in your relationship, it can work, even if you think you don't have much in common. If you are worlds apart, the relationship is going nowhere.

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I think it's only a problem if one of you insists on dragging the other along to places or events they don't enjoy.

If I had to spend every waking minute with my husband... well... I'm certain that he wouldn't be my husband any more. We'd drive each other positively mad.

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Blackie_Chan - What do you talk about when you are in a restaurant? Do you discuss the movies and/or shows afterwards?

The point that I am making is that you may have more in common than you think. Try and figure what it is that keeps you together. Do you share similar values? Are your thoughts on religion, politics, etc. either similar or complementary? Can you share your innermost fears and worries with this person?

Is she there for you when you are going through a difficult time? If you were in trouble, would she be the first one that you would think of if you needed assistance? Could you count on this person to "be there" for you in times of trouble?

Actually the last few times that we ate at a restaurant we didn't have much to talk about. There was a lot of silence, we might talk about people in the restaurant for a while, but that's it.

After movies or shows we don't talk much about it. After a two hr movie out discussion will usually last about 5 minutes about it, and back to silence.

We have different religious believes, but our values are pretty much in line. I can share my most innermost thoughts with her, but then again I wouldn't mind sharing those thoughts with anyone.

The main thing keeping us together is the physical.

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Doomed vs what? Are you looking to go beyond dating towards a long term commitment? If you are both satisfied with the relationship as it exists, then it can continue indefinitely. If you're wondering if you should live together or you're thinking of marriage, then you might want to ask yourself how you would spend that extra time together.

What was the original attraction? Does it still exist? Was it purely physical or are there other things that you like about each other?

We are both in our early 30s and it's just a matter of time before we need to talk about marriage.

We got together because a friend hooked us up, and I was physically attracted to her. I'm still physically attracted to her. But I'm worried that wouldn't last long as we both get older. As people get older they usually get fatter (which I'm not attracted to), and she doesn't like working out, so she'll probably get bigger before me.

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The main thing keeping us together is the physical.

Blackie Chan- Fuggadaboudit.

If the relationship is only physical, it is doomed to failure.

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