share bathroom rule ??

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Hi All,

I & husband share a condo with a single & other couple.
That single get master room with attached bathroom.

Therefore 2 couple share for 1 bathroom.

1)
I always make bathroom cleaning every 2 weeks, brush the floor & wall, clean mirror etc.
For that, i hang a calendar on behind of door, when i make cleaning i mark the date & write my name.
Hope they will get my mind about schedule for cleaning.
I guess that wife don't understand because she speak and write in mandarin only; meanwhile i'm using english :wink:
But that husband is local & fluent in english, so he can tell his wife is'n it ?
This is on third month, and i believe they never do that cleaning Sad

2)
Everytime after one of them take a bath, everywhere became wet ... very wet, just like if there is a rain Rolling Eyes

There is a bathroom separator with shower inside and door to go inside.
I think they will know if they should make shower in 'that box', so 'outside the box' remain dry ... Razz

But the fact is floor, wall and even toilet tissue that hang in the wall getting wet. Including wood table with mirror to store bath kit.

What do you think? Is it strange or i'm over irritating?

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Iveney: we should all be more accepting of differing cultures and not expect those with only a little expererience of our western culture to know what we are thinking.

I believe you should take the couple aside and explain what you expect. you can say "Because of different cultures you may not understand so I will tell you" please forgive me if you feel i am treating you badly I just want you to know what I think is the right way to use the bathroom/shower.

I know many western people who have trouble with some Japanese toilets and bathrooms (so many buttons!!).

I dont think you are being over irritated but this is not a case for being angry it is a case for care and compassion.

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Agreed. You also have to tell them about the schedule. Why would they clean if you do it for them? You have to tell them to share in that responsibility, since they don't raise the issue and it bugs you. I'm sure they won't say no.

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I agree with the above comments. They may not understand what you are telling them with the calendar. The best approach would is to be direct, but polite and understanding.

It may also be helpful if you ask for their suggestions on how you can share the cleaning duties - that way you do not come across as taking control or being too bossy.

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Agree with all of the above, the only thing I'd add is that perhaps they think that cleaning the bathroom is your job, that you get a reduction in your rent for it or something.

Definitely worth clarifying all of this in a polite and proactive way. Great that the husband is fluent in English, that should make it easier.

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