Kalel--
Welcome to A2K.
The first year of a marriage is always difficult and the first year of a marriage with the husband and wife being separated by 3500 miles is very difficult.
For eight months you've missed her. You've been lonely. Your wife has also been lonely--and perhaps a bit foolish.
Quote:In my opinion, my wife is obsessed with that guy. I told my wife to think about this for a week and realize things that she is doing a sin, not only to me, our family and God. I just told her that I just need a heart felt sorry and realize things. After a week, she told me that she is sorry for all the things she've done and she loves me. she told me that I dont deserve what she did, she felt sorry and she will be a better person after that problem
You lectured her--and I hope explained that you loved her. She told you she was sorry.
Now, either drop it or divorce her. If you don't feel you can trust her, then her behavior--virtuous or not--doesn't matter.
You can't build a marriage in a single weekend, no matter how romantic.
Because of your geographic separation (before a firm relationship was established), your marriage is under severe stress. Why is it necessary that you be in two separate countries? How long is this separation going to continue?
Frankly, I don't see a lot of hope for your marriage unless the two of you start living together. You are both growing and changing--and quite possibly growing in different directions.