JPB wrote:Bummer. Is this a new marriage? Or, did you not previously know this about her?
We've been together for 10 years and sometimes I'm reminded of the things I've lost for things I've gained. Because she does not (cannot?) see massage in the same light I do, when she does it for me I can easily tell it's not in keep with the spirit, and it does not have the feedback / subtly I was once used to giving / receiving.
Bella Dea wrote:Some people just do not like to be touched. Period.
Leave it at that and be happy that she isn't suffering in silence while you rub her uncomfortable.
You're right about that but I'm kind'a left out of the loop compared to what I know and like. It's true she's not a super touchy-feely mush-ball girl, in fact she more of a hard-ass when all is said and done, and that can have it pluses; but not when it comes to sensual massages and the physical feedback loop.
Yipes! I can imagine what she'd say and how she'd react if I said "Sweetheart since you're not really into sensual massage, I'm sure you would not mind if I called up an old friend or two."