MissIntrigued wrote:
If I don't hear from him for a few days I tend to freak out and think he doesn't like me anymore, at which point he'll usually throw me a text or an email apologizing and saying he got swamped at work or had to go out of town for work or whatever. And I know at certain time's of the month the magazine he works for is on deadline and he's at work till late....but I still get paranoid. I guess being a silly girl.
Well, if you are going to persue this relationship, long distance or not, that has got to stop. It will poison anything you do have. Paranoia breeds distrust and distrust destroys even what is honest and true. You have to trust him or it's never going to work.
MissIntrigued wrote:
So now I am going over to London again in three weeks, and this will be our third week that we spend together. I still dont know what to say to him, even though I am dying to know where he thinks this has the potential to go, if anywhere. I wish I knew if he was seeing any other girls, which I don't think he is, and I want to know and at the same time would be upset if I found out he was, so I guess I shouldn't ask....
I think if you are each flying across an ocean to see one another, asking if the relationship has a future is not out of the question. I mean, you don't have to demand a marriage proposal or force him to decide if he wants to father your children or anything. A simple "where is this going?" would work. If you don't, you might spend the next however long thinking something is growing when really it isn't...or you might waste that time believe nothing is there when it is.
MissIntrigued wrote:
I am in the midst of making a big decision about my future right now: to go to London for an MBA, which means I would be closer to him, and only take two years to get a degree, or to stay in America and pursue medicine, which will take me another 7 years at least, and eat up most of my daylight hours. I love healthcare and sometimes feel like I wouldnt be happy if I gave up that dream of being a doctor, but am I being stupid to think that Im also possibly giving up on a normal life with someone I've really clicked with by not going over there for a couple of years?
Deciding youir personal future based on someone else is almost never a good idea. Especially when you aren't even sure where that other person is in terms of the relationship. Asking him to provide answers for you regarding the relationship so you can mek this decision will most definitely scare him away. Who wants that responsibility?
If this is a guy you can marry and spend the rest of your life with, it will work. If not, it won't. Plain and simple. If you don't pursue what you want to do, and this relationship doesn't work, what will you be left with? A dream of what you could have been and nothing to show for it.
If you "clicked" with someone at a coffee house, would you drop your life to move to their neighborhood and invest your entire life into making it work?
Don't drop your life for the prospect of a relationship. Make your decision and then go from there. If it's meant to be, things will fall into place.