tomyyy wrote:I have met (dated) her 4 times Chai Tea
oh, I guess I'm behind. I thought you were still at the stage of figuring out how to give her a kiss.
Where is your relationship now?
I don't want you to think I'm comparing you to the person in this story, but, to give you some idea how women might see this....
In my mid 20's I was living with my then BF (same age as me). His brother "Joe", maybe 3 or so years younger, came to visit for maybe a week. My BF was the manager of a movie theater, and on Saturday nights he would play movies after hours for the workers, they'd drink beer and relax watching movies. That Saturday night Joe was there and apparantly got quite smitten with one of the girls who worked there. I doubt they had sex, but I guess there was some major making out during the movies. I didn't know this girl, but my BF said she was a nice kid (he was pretty protective of the girls there actually), she just got a little drunk.
Anyway, Sunday morning comes and Joe is going on about how much he cares about this girl, and how he's thinking of moving here....you get the point. He had asked her to come over at noon and they were going on a picknick or something.
I knew he was WAY out of the realm of reality, and wanted to hang around to see if I was needed in anyway. I was.
I was sitting outside reading the Sunday paper, when the girl shows up. You could tell by her face she was regreting her decision in the cold, sober light of day. Since I didn't really know her, I just asked (we were alone) "Is everything OK?"
She said something to the effect of "Oh God, he's called me twice this morning, and has all day and tomorrow planned out and how he wants to be with me and everything."
That's when he came outside and grabbed her up in an embrace, trying to kiss her, while she's looking over her shoulder at me with this desparate look, like "SAVE ME!!"
I forget the whole chain of events, but she ended up going home alone shortly afterwards, and he was stricken that last night didn't mean they were going to be together "forever"
Again, I'm not saying at all you've done that, but if you've gone out 4 times, I don't think she's concerned whether you're a serial dater or not.
You haven't said....How is she reacting to you so far? What kind of signals is she giving to you? She's the other half of the equation you know, and has a say in all this.