Confused boyfriend is confusing me!!

I am not male, but I would like to give my opinion anyway.
If at 29 he has not been in a serious relationship, my guess would be, that he really is worried about what he is letting himself into.
He might fear that he is giving up his individuality.
In which case your relationship might get back to normal, once the threat of 'moving-together' is no longer right in front of his face.

Personally I find seven months quite a short time to be moving in together.
But everybody experiences these things differently.

The other possibility is that he has been thinking about ending the relationship for a while and now is shocked that it seems to be much more serious for you than for him.

Which it is, or if it is something completely different...
There's only one person who can give you the answer to this.

So one way or another you will have to get him to speak to you.

Time out for me is just a drawn out separation.
I would not recommend it!

Thanks Bohne for your point of view.

I wouldnt go for the time out option, just continue the relationship as you were and give him time to get used to the a new idea. Let him know that you want to take the next step in your relationship but are willing to give him time to make up his own mind.
I suggest he probably just hadn't thought about it in a really seriouse way.

Another thing is he might be feeling a little powerless as you have taken the traditional role of the man asking the woman etc.

Seems to me, he's not ready to settle down. I am 29 and have married to my wife for 5 years. Still, I know what it's like to keep options open. I feel if I were not with my wife, I would have wide field in which to play. For the most part, us guys get bored easily.

Sweetie, he's not confused or unsure of anything.

That's just a lot easier to say than "I don't want to live with you".

There was a Chai who had a dog and bingo was his name-o.

Wha?

Are you on the goof ball?

You smokin' the pot, are you?


Oh wait....the hamster wheel in my brain just turned. You're saying Eureka! aren't you?

Chai's right. He doesn't want to move in with you, IMO. Doesn't necessarily mean he wants to break up with you, just not live together. Now, the ball's in your court.

If he has not been in a serious relationship before, moving in after only 7 months could be WAY too much for him.

It would be way too much for me too and I have been in several serious relationships.

My advice, at 7 months, instead of actually moving in, why not just spend more time at each others place.

Moving in together closes options. After seven months of dating you want to leave your options open until your lives are so interwined that cohabitation is a simplification.

The hamster must be on the pot too. :wink:

i have the first part and this is what i think....

7 months isn't a long time to move in together no matter how many serious relationships you've had....since he hasn't really had any other serious relationship this is pretty scary!!!!! he probably just needs more time....

as far as taking time apart, it solves nothing since you don't really know what the problem is....i think you need to talk to one another about what you are feeling and about what you both want RIGHT NOW and go from there....good luck