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Sun 15 Oct, 2006 06:01 pm
hi everyone,
i was wondering if anyone could give me some advice?
im a 19 year old girl and i am very insecure i worry about everyting, especially about losing my boyfriend of 13 months. i worry so much that it is really putting pressure on out relationship! he is very supportive and respects and cares for me so much so why do i worry that he will leave me all the time? if im not with him and he wants to go somewhere i stress out! please help me
What do you do when you're not with him?
To lose someone after a thirteen month relationship must be the personification of torture.
I feel for you, my child.
Be brave.
i dont do anything when im not with him just stayhome and wait 4 him to come bak
That's kinda what I suspected, and that's exactly what you can work on.
DON'T JUST HANG AROUND WAITING FOR HIM TO COME BACK!
Do your own thing. Have fun at home, or go do something fun, or hang out with friends -- focus on yourself, get other things going on in your brain instead of the himhimhimhimhim neverending loop.
When that is taken care of, you'll be a lot more secure.
yeah i no thats wat i have to do, but i just find it to be hard i hate myself for bein like this
Find yourself a hobby.
Whatever you like doing!
Running
Sewing
Swimming
Unicycling
Diving
Football
Cooking
Photography
Badminton
or whatever
Then find likewise minded people or a club to join.
Don't look for them online, find them in real life.
Then spend some time every week on your hobby (or several of them) without your boyfriend.
What do you do for work?
Do you ever go out with colleagues?
Do you have friends?
First of all, YOU'RE NINETEEN!!!! What are you even doing in a serious relationship? You're just way too young and immature (and that goes for all 19 year olds, not just you). You should be dating around and experiencing life, not pretending to be Sylvia Plath.
Bah! Maybe the truism is right-- youth IS wasted on the young!
A hairdresser - that's cool. So you are set in your work then?
What do you do in your spare time? Do you have a few girl friends you can go out and have some laughs with?
It's just a matter of refocusing your attention back to the important things in life. Sure, it's nice having a bf, but it definetly isn't the end of the world even if it doesn't work out.
Have such a full life that you are not left with nothing to do when he is gone.