shewolfnm wrote:
Im thinking one of the issues here is that all of the money that goes to the bills is coming from HER account and HER check, and not his because he has squandered it.
It might be that if she doesnt pay the bills, the lights will be turned off.
But that is just a guess.
That was my guess too. Except she is paying for him as well - squandering bill money on his beer and old bills!
My point was to see if she has ever allowed him to be accountable for his own actions in the relationship - or if she has been rescuing and taking care of him the entire time? You know, being controlling basically.
Maybe rather than a case of outgrowing, she chose someone she specifically knew she could feel superior over. Nice boost to the ego to feel someone needs you so baddd, oh how would they live without you?
It would seem unhelpful to dump him out on the streets now that she 'feels like she is going somewhere' after using him. Yup, using him. It's damn disrespectful to treat your spouse like they are incapable of providing.
Marriage has to mean something. At least trying to make things work - and I'm wondering if she has even tried to yet?
If she had tried already and he is how she says...he'd be on his own and out of that house by now.
-standing in as the resident jerk for a while --