"Not the Time for a Relationship" - Early Stages

Wow, its been a while since I post something here. Following my relational posting fashion, its a loooong one.

Around 4 months ago I found a girl in one of those social network webpages and established contact. After a couple of exchanged messages, I decided to add her on my MSN Messenger. This is not something unusual for me, though... generally I never actually meet the person.

She seemed to be a perfect "nice girl". Attached to her family, calmed, and a tad silly. Really beautiful IMO. 20 years old, in law school, and working
with some lawyers on the morning. Similar daily schedule than me, cause I also follow the work-school routine. We had a daily messenger relationship cause we are always logged in at work, although we are NOT always at the keyboard hehe. I am more than her. Her last relationship lasted for 1 month and was a short while before.

In the first stages of this period I was involved in another relationship that lasted around 2 months. When it ended - cause she was moving to Miami with her family - I was sincerely affected for a short while. Some weeks later I decide that it might be fun to actually meet the "new girl".

She responds perfectly, and we match well. I feel a sincere interest from her. I meet her in her school, then she invites me to a disco with her
friends (and cousin), next we see each other a couple of times, have lunch together, and finally she suggests that we should go to a beach thats 20-30 miles away from here. So I follow instructions, and its suddenly just the 2 of us alone, under a cloudless nightsky, in front of a spectacular beach with a sandy plateau and rock formations. Very intimate. One thing lead to another and we are suddenly down in the sand, kissing. Things get reallly passionate, but no actual below the waist action is involved. Simply a very special moment. We leave the place, we hold hands, hug, kiss, and say goodbye. 10:30 PM and she had a reunion with friends (and cousin).

Saturday - Sunday we dont see each other. In the former she had a couple of compromises with her girl friends. Next day I give her a morning call, and it seems that she would be busy with her family, and doesnt feel that well. We see each other on monday for around 30 minutes after her school. Lousy time. For the most part she was with her Nextel radio talking to her mom about some legal problems that involved a relative, and
then she leaves with her girl friend to see their friends (and cousin) play soccer.

I struggle to find a pleaseant timeframe with her on which we could meet, and we finally agree on seeing each other on friday, 6:00 to 9:00 PM. She was going on a camping during the weekend with her friends (and cousins), so she needed time for preparations. So we have the "OFFICIAL CHAT" and I put my feelings on the table after some casual and light conversation. I basically say what I really feel. That I like her very much, that we went a bit overboard on that passionate friday, that I wanted to know her more... and follow the normal process before actually being
"boyfriends". She slowly replies with an honest face, that everything took an unexpected turn on the last sunday after "our night". It seems that a family problem reached a critical point and it affected her greately. She says that all was ok with us, that we where going in the right direction, but that right now she's not int the state of mind needed to establish a "serious" relationship. Time? Of course she doesnt know. I nod, understand her, and reply that I'm unsure of what course of action I should take.

Wait passively? Actively? Ask her out? Avoid the friend zone? Finally I told her that I would like to be there, close, in case that she needs something, a distraction, whatever... We hug, and she's gone.

So what should I do? I am really fascinated about this girl. I admire her on many aspects, we have a really fun time, and I love that she is working and studying just like me. This is NOT a situation I'm familiar with. Generally I would not care THAT much of the other person in this early stages... but, my feelings are more intense than normal.

I recognize that it might be a complicated relationship in a family level (her mom has a tight grip, and will only let her hang out at night if her cousin joins her). Yet, if I COULD alliviate her griefs just a bit, while she grows out of her situation, it would make me feel very good.

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Any advise, as always, will be deeply appreciated.