Naaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah. No candles, no sweets dear.
If u keep doing what those people are telling u u will end up having sex on christmas eve as a presend from santa clause.
Women are maniacs, dear. Make her feel jealuous. A few phone calls to some stranger, start dressing nicer, start spending more time with ur friends and u will notice that she will start getting all alerted. Listen, she is taking u for granted...she is setting up the rules, not u. And when woman does that, she is not even happy herself.
A friend of mine, was married to a guy for 7 years and he was all nice and stuff and used to give her flowers tell her how much he loves her. She could tell him "I am not coming home tonight" and he would not even fight with her over that. She left him for a russian guy who is keeping her on her toes-She is worried and paranoid most of the time, but, heck, I think she really likes it. She is not leaving him and says, might be strange, that the less attention men pay to woman, the more thy want them.
If u want, I will help ur friend, give me his number and I will make a few phone calls, and his wife will fire up and would f**k him all weekend.