You don't mention either your age or your GF's age in your summary, but I'd guess that you two are between 35 and 45. Men and women of that age come with baggage.
In fact these days, some 18-year-olds come with baggage.
Your GF's baggage includes weekly contact with a first husband for pot smoking and motorcycle rides. You discovered this very shortly after you met her.
After only two months you want her to stop seeing her Ex and stop smoking pot and to become more like the woman of your dreams.
You really love her--and you really want her to change. Has she tried to change you in any way?
I'd be more worried about her Grand Total of Three Failed Marriages. Pygmalion and Henry Higgins are fictional characters who managed to re-make fictional women. Your GF of two months doesn't want to be remade.
She wants to spend Sundays smoking pot and riding motorcycles with her Ex.
Find a girlfriend you don't have to reform and improve to suit your ideal.
As for:
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A counselor told me that men and women cannot truely just be friends.
Bullsh!t.
I agree.