Re: Are there any good men out there???
martybarker wrote: ...
I figure that once I start dating again it will take time to weed through the men to find the good ones. And that's when I actually start dating. I don't consider myself desperate in any way but I know that I don't want to be single for the rest of my life. I don't see marriage in my future(been there done that) but I would like a partner to experience life with.
What do you think????
There are good people everywhere and finding someone with qualities you want depends on where and how you do a search. I think there's no easy path and any way you choose has some sort of pain or tedium associated with it.
However, I applaud your courage and welcome you to the "party". Freedom from being trapped in a bad relationship allows the soul some liberating healing and blossoming.
Being single again myself...I say congratulations.
I don't know in which age group you are, but I'll tell you that I find it a bit harder over 40, but not impossible. Ignore things like odds being against your finding a suitable partner for an Over 40 person, because all you need is one person to make you happy.
As an example, I'm 55 now (located in northeast), but I've found a suitable partner with whom I was coupled for 5 yrs (once at 45 and again at 49). I used online dating sites to help me find both of them. Also, my sister found her hubby at age 50 (metro NYC) and they've been together 8 or 9 yrs and are quite happy.
Location near a major population center helps. The more activities with which you're involved and about which you're passionate, the easier it will be.
Remember that when you try to imagine being married AGAIN, as an abstract idea (without seeing or knowing that special loving person), it seems unfathomable if you've had a recent separation or divorce; however, look back in 2 years, let's say, date some great guys and you may soften that stance.
Hope this helps you